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Housing - we lived overseas but are now back in the UK and my partner has just been diagnosed with advanced stage 4 prostate cancer. What do we do?

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We lived overseas and moved back recentlyas we missed family and it just didn’t work out for us we invested our money in a villa out there, and now we’re sofa surfing until our home overseas is sold, My partners since been diagnosed with stage 4 prostate cancer spread to his para aortic lymph nodes and seminal sacs as well as pelvic nodes!!! 
Firstly is anyone else in a similar situation? How did you cope, and has anyone else had this diagnosis and lived to tell the tale? He’s the love of my life , we were so shocked and stunned I’m still getting my head round it and just want to cry all the time but can’t cos I’ve got to stay strong for him, he’s so amazing so strong and so determined he’ll beat it docs said he’s got 3-5 years but I fear it will be much less ! I feel so powerless hopeless and don’t know what to do … I’d be lost without him 

please help, how do we find somewhere to live that doesn’t cost the earth rentals are starting at £1750 which is extortionate, I’m sure we won’t qualify for housing as we’re not on list and I’m sure there’s years to wait … even if our villa sells it will be at least a year before it all goes through, he deserves so much more than this especially now !!! 
please help 

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    Hi I'm so sorry to hear about your partners diagnosis. I know it can all seem so unreal to start with. I've not long been diagnosed with breast cancer. I saw your post and I wanted to suggest how to try and get help with housing. I would suggest contacting your local authority.  They can advise you of what help is available and if they can help even in the short term. I know you've lived abroad so it will depend on how  long you've been out of the country and what equity you'll have in the property if it sells. But talking to the housing team will give you a better idea of the situation. Go on their website and you should be able to register as homeless. Make sure to do that first. Then someone will get in touch with you to discuss your situation. I have knowledge of this kind of thing from my job. With regard to the diagnosis you're allowed to be sad too. You can't always be strong. I don't have a partner and it's been really hard. My advice is support each other and accept help. I'm very good at that but it makes a difference. Last of all make list or write stuff down that you want to ask at the next appointment. I always forgot things so now I take a note book and write down my questions 

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