I’m newly diagnosed with IDC stage 2, grade 3.

i have never been ill in my life.

i am/was in a relatively new relationship that is extremely complicated. Through no fault of either of ours. He had a heart attack this time last year of which he has got over well with stents. He has also since been diagnosed with low grade prostate cancer, which is at the watch and wait stage. He also has mental health issues.

since my diagnosis in November 23 his words are “don’t worry everything will be ok, we’ll get through this”, which is very supportive.

However, I have noticed that he has become very stressed, which is making me stressed and he has started to snap at me. 
I am undergoing gruelling chemo therapy treatment at the moment.

i am very worried for him and to be truthful I am worried for me to as I don’t want or need the added stress of his stress.

i really feel that I would be better off dealing with this alone. I have  good family and friends.

i have told him this and he is obviously hurt, but also acknowledges his stress. He said that if we finish things whilst I am going through this it makes things worse for him if he is alone.

He is a lovely man. But I just cannot give him what we both set out to give each other 2and a half years ago.

i feel so *** about it all. But I really need to concentrate on getting through this nightmare without the added stress of progressing with a relationship.

Am I being unreasonable?

Tess x