I am sorry to hear you are going through this.

It is a big shock and that overwhelm is understandable 

Well done for reaching out I am caring for my hubby and he often doesnt want to talk and I found that tricky ( we all process at different speeds ) but actually found when he did share his feelings it really helped us both....id say skip anyrhing on tv that is triggering 

Hubby has been talking to counsellor which I see helps him lots 

And hopefully you will get your results soon

Top tip do all the things you enjoy 

Dont put them off 

Time is precious 

Good luck 

Thank you. It does help to talk to people who know what its like as they are in the same or similar situation

Glad your hubby can talk to someone. I think it must send you mad if you keep it all in.

I have barely seen friends as I feel I don't want to talk about it to them as they dont get it. Just seeing people and hearing them talk about going for bottomless brunch, planning holiday or complaining about work or comparatively trivial stuff makes me feel like screaming at them at how bloody lucky they are thats all they have to worry about. I know really that I was exactly like that a few months ago - no serious worries at all.

Hope you have ways of letting off steam yourself & good people around you as well as your hubby.

Its okay to feel what you feel

And people dont get it unless they have been there.

I have set boundaries and only engage on my terms it is exhausting repeating things and having to manage others reactions

By time we have processed some of it we are already moving and adapting and then you meet someone who doesnt know ...they say the things they feel they should and ( gift you a meal for xmas!) cos they have no idea!

(Yep it happened)

Do things that give you space and feel better a walk a bubble bath or write on hear whatever it takes

You dont have to know everything now or be petfect mum just take obe day at a time 

Exactly the feeling of it being exhausting repeating it all. When we first found out I didn't tell any of my friends or other family till I felt ready as you're still processing it yourself. I told 2 close friends and my sister after about 3 weeks then (horribly) just ignored others as I felt a barrier in that I couldn't physically write a Whatsapp message or call them to explain what was going on. 

Previous to all this I used to go running round the forest near my home about 3 times a week but not since this, as its all I think about when I'm not at work. I know I must try and do normal things & I will once he gets started on treatment & I know its being dealt with.

Thanks for the concern. Hope you are living life as much as you can too.

Exactly the feeling of it being exhausting repeating it all. When we first found out I didn't tell any of my friends or other family till I felt ready as you're still processing it yourself. I told 2 close friends and my sister after about 3 weeks then (horribly) just ignored others as I felt a barrier in that I couldn't physically write a Whatsapp message or call them to explain what was going on. 

Previous to all this I used to go running round the forest near my home about 3 times a week but not since this, as its all I think about when I'm not at work. I know I must try and do normal things & I will once he gets started on treatment & I know its being dealt with.

Thanks for the concern. Hope you are living life as much as you can too.

If you can make a little time for your self care it will benefit you and son/his wife .....like recharging your batteries ... We cant care for others if we burn out ....

I know its hard and sometimes i feel guilty but it helps keep me sane

I also chat to a therapist.....it helps 

Look after yourself 

I couldn’t tell anyone to start with. 
My parents come to our house every Sunday for a brew and I couldn’t face telling them. 
I waited until I knew they had got home and then I sent them a message. I also asked them not to ring as I wouldn’t answer as I couldn’t talk about it. 
I also had to ask my partner to tell my boss as I couldn’t manage to do that either. 

Its such a lot to take on board ....

Sometimes words are beyond us.

I can only imagine how you felt. Maybe it's a common thing to not want to tell people for a bit. Dean didn't tell friends for a few weeks into it all .Some people at my work know now as I thought I'd better tell some relevant people so they'd get it if I had a meltdown! But I see people on the corridor and dread them asking: How's your son doing? and they give that sympathetic look. They're only being kind but I don't want to explain it all. 

I will, thanks.