Hi Kitty,

When are you due to have your procedure? I sincerely hope that it all goes well for you.

Regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Jolamine

I have my surgery on 15th January. I have the injection in my arm pit same day, the morning before. I'm worried about that. X

That’s the point of this page. I have found it useful to chat with people on same timeline. I had a heart shaped cushion which helped take the weight of the duvet or making a gap between my arm and my boob. I will put it on my sofa to remind me of how far I have come. It is also a reminder of self care and not being hard on yourself-i have always said I don’t need people to be horrible to me as I’m an expert of doing to myself!! I said to my husband we needed to have a weekly check in with conversation of how we are doing rather than the “how are you” “I’m fine” when that’s not what we really mean. Feel free to keep messaging I’ll reply 

I work for local council in school transport. I have over 100 staff. I can work from home but choose not to as I feel my staff need to see me and they keep me going. I have worked there 7 years so they are my extended family. I have been with them for their health and bad times so I know I can expect the same-not that I’ve told them all why I’ve been off. They know I’ve had medical treatment and a few have had their own cancer journeys so we have bonded over that. Don’t rush work if you don’t need to. My job is a big part of my world but I have to say in last 4 weeks I’ve hardly given it a thought. Take each day as a day you succeeded in just being 

Thank you MummyMartin - that’s really kind. I’m going to get one of those cushions as I’ve read a few reviews saying how good they are. 
My partner is great but I don’t want to put too much pressure on him so I hold back a bit when he asks how I’m feeling. I feel so guilty and I can’t shake it off. 
On the plus side, it has snowed here overnight so we can hunker down, eat the last of the mince pies and watch films all day! 

I work in a school. They have been really supportive. I’ve told them I’m not going back until at least after February half term so that they’ve been able to sort out a proper supply staff. But I’m worried my doctor won’t sign me off for that long. I just can’t imagine working in that environment feeling physically and mentally vulnerable. 

I bought one on Etsy was £7. Even came with a personal card saying they hoped me or the recipient recovered quickly 

To Mummymartin and AngeAMC

You are both really inspiring thank you for sharing the place you are at after surgery. Thinking of you both and willing you perfect recoveries with comfy restorative sleep and supportive loving family and friends around you.xx

Sorry, I meant to say stage and not age!

Jolamine xx

HI Ange,

I would highly recommend one of the heart shaped cushions - just a small one that you can carry around with you. For car journeys, I used the seat belt protectors that attach to the seat belt by Velcro. These are really for babies or young children. They weren't as helpful as the cushion, but they were of some use. They can also b bolstered up by adding more padding or are very easy to make yourself. 

I'm glad to hear that you have managed to arrange cover until half-term. The tiredness is common and you need to be kind to yourself.

Jolamine xx

I was signed off initially for 2 weeks then asked for another week and then I was off for Christmas anyway. Yours is a different job so emotions will play a big part to your return. I think you could get 6 week note easily. When I phoned for my fit note they basically asked me how long I would like!! 

I was signed off initially for 2 weeks then asked for another week and then I was off for Christmas anyway. Yours is a different job so emotions will play a big part to your return. I think you could get 6 week note easily. When I phoned for my fit note they basically asked me how long I would like!! 

That’s reassuring thank you. I’ll give the doctor a ring this week. Fingers crossed. X