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My partner has been diagnosed with cancer - looking to talk to others in a similar position

Leese
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Hi I'm not sure why I'm here! 

But maybe to talk to others who's partner has been diagnosed with Cancer.. 

I'm struggling to make it all out, the diagnosis was not a shock as my partner spent the whole of Christmas and the new year in our critical care unit fighting for his life.  Christmas last year was difficult for me being at home with no one to offload to ..

I suffer with physical illness and mental health illness to and I just feel so drained and completely lost! 

I split up with my partner in February this year after ten years together! And I planned on moving away and starting again but my plans have all gone out of the window, my partner has no other support but me! 

My friend said to me last night, you are looking after your partner but who is looking after or taking care of you! I just threw my arms up in the air as I had no answer to give! 

Thanks for reading if you got this far and I am hoping that I can just figure it all out, if only that was that easy!!

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    Hi leese. Your not alone. My husband has stage 3 nasopharyngeal and throat cancer which has spread to his skull. I am struggling to cope. It's such a lonely journey when you do everything that you can but still have to watch them suffer. I feel so responsible for his wellbeing that it's making me ill. I worry so much about him not eating etc that I forget to eat. I can't sleep even when he does because I'm so stressed yet everyone says to me, make sure you look after yourself.  Ha.. thats doubling the burden. I to was going to move on and start a new life but now feel trapped because I still care about this man as a great friend but feel that it's my responsibility to care for him now. I don't resent it,I just have trouble accepting it sometimes.  He's chemo is very tough on him and he looks so frail. It's awful to watch but I will not let him down .. 

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