Desperate for some hope please

My dad now 74,  was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer October 23, after quite a few rounds of chemo he was finally offered the whipple, they had also found an abscess on his liver but said they didn’t think it as cancer so he had the whippple surgery  June 24. They said they got everything out and it went well. We celebrated! However my dad’s recovery was very slow, he’s been in and out of hospital since June. He was meant to start more chemo to mop up everything, he’s not been able to do this cause they were concerned about what they thought was an abscess on the liver originally so they did a biopsy after this he was getting a lot of pain in his stomach, we waited and waited for the results and the first set back was to say it wasn’t an infection, then Friday 6th of September they got the results back and unfortunately they said it’s mets on the liver and possibly on the stomach lining. We were floored because  this “top man” who did the biopsy had said “if I was a betting man then I would say this is just in infection” so we just not prepared or ready for this news. As my dad is still so poorly they have said if he has chemo it may only give him 3-6 months, but we don’t think he will be well enough.
He’s  in pain but the morphine makes him feel sick and the anti sickness tablets don’t help so he’s not eating, Looking for any hope! Anything to help us, any help or support please. My family is just broken, I have not stopped crying or trying to find something online to help or give us hope. Thank you 

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  • Hello Florida30 and welcome to Cancer Chat.

    I noticed you haven't had a reply to your post just yet so I just wanted to stop by to say how sorry I am to hear about your dad and to reassure you that your post has been seen.

    Finding out about the mets on your dad's liver and that the chemo may only give him 3 - 6 months if he is well enough to have it, must have been incredibly difficult and upsetting. I can't begin to imagine what you and your family must be going through at the moment but I hope you can take some strength, and comfort, from knowing that our community are here for you and I'm sure some of our members who have been in this very difficult and unfortunate position with their loved ones will be along soon to offer you their support and advice.

    If you'd like to talk any of this through with one of our cancer nurses, they're available on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m. They're very informative, and understanding, and they will do all they can to help and support you at this time.

    We're thinking of you Florida30 and sending all our support to you and your family at this very challenging time.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Thank you so much for replying and for your kind words. 
    I will give them a call because I do feel like we have some questions and concerns. 
    thank you so much 

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