Hi Ninjawado, 

Your poor dad -  I am so sorry to hear he has been so poorly with sepsis and that scans and tests are suggesting he has a mass in his bowel and liver and possible lesions on his lung. This is a really hard time for you all when you suspect a cancer diagnosis but are still waiting for confirmation of this. This is a lot for you to have to deal with emotionally especially if your mum has dementia and you also have a son with additional needs. 

You are right to try and stay positive at the moment while you are waiting to find out more and it won't be long now until you get the lung scan and bowel biopsy results. Try if you can not to anticipate what it might be or what treatment might be offered until you get the full picture. While you are waiting, I thought I would share with you our helpful tips to help you cope during this time of uncertainty. 

This is a time when you will feel very much alone with what is going on around you especially if your dad has asked you not to tell anybody. This is why coming here on Cancer Chat may help a little bit as you will meet others here who are in a similar place at the moment or who have been through this before and who understand what a frightening time it must be for you right now. 

We're thinking of you and your dad during this difficult time and wanted you to know we are all here for you anytime you need to offload. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator