Hi Jilly,

I am so sorry that your mum has had this diagnosis.  I know how difficult it is to try to get answers from the doctors.  When my mum was in hospital, during visiting time no one was ever around to answer questions.  I would ring the ward before your next planned visit and tell the nurse that you wanted to meet a doctor when you are there, to discuss your mums diagnosis.  I usually found that was more effective than trying to pin someone down on the day.

Also, if they decide at some point that your mum is well enough to be sent home, make sure that they have got a proper care package in place first.  Unfortunately, hospitals are so short of beds that sometimes it happens too soon and the community care is in such a dire situation that they cannot provide carers.  They were pushing my mum to leave with only my 83 year old father to look after her.  It broke my heart to tell my mum that she couldnt go home, but I had to protect my dads health to.  Eventually they had to provide the carers.

I hope that you get some answers soon.

Best wishes

Annie