Hi there, I recently been diagnosed with hight-grade DCIS on my right breast. Doctor told me that mastectomy is the only choice I have. 

When she described pros and cons, I thought I should have had a double mastectomy because she said they had to intervene on the left breast to make both similar. I thought they would have done all in one surgery, so I had sone pain but no forther surgeries.

When I had the second meeting with her and I asked about the left breast, she said it is ok and does not need mastectomy. Maybe something after a year to make it similar to the other one.

She also said that I will have a huge scar on my right breast, niple removed and after a year maybe a tatoo. 

She said that because I have a big breast, size f, the implant will be heavy and it will need some type of support inside my skin.

English is not my first language and so I feel very uncomfortable. I feel I have not enough words to descibe my feeling and my concerns.

I tried to explain to her that I am feeling devastated. I cannot cope with it. I am having daily meltdown. I cry every day. I am 54 and I am unable to accept my body will be devastated having a breast with a huge scar, no niple, smaller than the left one. 

Can I ask for a second opinion?

Could I request a double mastectomy and reconstruction if only in left breast?

Can I have some help? Evwn if I have my husband on my side, I feel alone and I feel the doctor is unable to understand my feelings. She is not emphatetic at all.

I am thinking that I rather prefer to keep my breast as it is with no mastectomy and just wait to die.

Thank you for reading it, and thank you to whoever will take the time to answer.