Hello Duffybear

I'm so very sorry to hear about your recent diagnosis. It's perfectly understandable that your thoughts may be running at 100 miles an hour thinking about every possibility that you and your daughter may be facing over the coming weeks and months. 

I hope that the biopsy went smoothly yesterday and hopefully, the additional scans and tests you've been told are needed will all run to plan over the next few weeks. 

What kind of support do you have from family and friends Duffybear? I remember reading a post here on the forum some years ago now from a single Mum who found herself in a similar position to you. I don't know if you've heard of the proverb "it takes a village" but she talked in her post about how she had called her village - meaning her friends and family - to action. Those people who were able to step up to support her and her children she allocated tasks to. So one particular friend helped with her children because they were already very close. A family member helped with the cleaning and another with the grocery shopping. Others helped with lifts to and from hospital appointments. I remember her sharing that it helped her to know that there were other people who could support her with those tasks and gave her a little breathing space to concentrate on her own health during her treatment. 

From the information you've shared in your post, there are a few weeks yet before any treatment will start so perhaps use this time to help you prepare. I'm unsure if your daughter has a particular teacher or key worker that she's close with. It's always worth bringing them into the loop so that they can also offer another layer of help and support to your daughter over the coming months. 

For many people this period of uncertainty whilst waiting for tests and results can be particularly difficult and there will certainly be days when you're going to struggle. If it would help to talk with one of our nurses for some support you're most welcome to call them Duffybear. I know they will be happy to listen and offer any advice they can. They're available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040. 

And don't forget that of course the Cancer Chat community is here for you as well. If it helps to put down in writing how you're feeling, ask questions or chat with others who are going through similar situations then please do post. We're here to listen and will do our best to support you through this difficult time. 

Sending you and your daughter my very best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator