Welcome to our forum, Elvisjm

I'm sorry to hear about what you and your dad are going through. It's completely understandable that you're struggling with this news and feeling the urge to be with him during this difficult time. 

While your dad may prefer to wait until he has all the details before seeing you, it's important to respect his wishes and decisions regarding his health. However, you can still offer him your love, support, and encouragement from a distance. Let him know that you're there for him whenever he needs you, whether it's for emotional support, help with practical matters, or just a listening ear.

Hopefully others who have encountered a similar experience will pop by soon to give you advice but until they do you might want to have a read at this page from our website called Family, friends, carers and cancer which covers taking care of yourself while helping someone with cancer

I hope this helps a little.

Best wishes to you and your dad,

Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator