Welcome to the forum, Supergran123 although I'm sorry to hear about the reason that brings you here.

It's completely understandable that you're feeling overwhelmed and uncertain about how to move forward, especially considering your family circumstances.

While I can't offer medical advice, I want you to know that you're not alone in facing this challenge, there are many here who will understand how you're feeling and what you're going through at the moment, hopefully some of them will come along shortly with words of advice and support.

In terms of supporting your grandchildren, it's important to prioritise your own health and well-being while also considering their needs. You may want to explore options for additional support, such as respite care services or assistance from other family members or friends.

There are various organisations and support groups available that provide assistance and guidance to individuals facing similar situations. Your healthcare provider or local community resources may be able to provide information on these services. We too have a page on our website with advice on what you can do to help yourself while navigating these difficult times.

I hope this helps a little.

Last but not least, please remember we're always around for when you need a chat.

All the best,

Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

Welcome to the forum, Supergran123 although I'm sorry to hear about the reason that brings you here.

It's completely understandable that you're feeling overwhelmed and uncertain about how to move forward, especially considering your family circumstances.

While I can't offer medical advice, I want you to know that you're not alone in facing this challenge, there are many here who will understand how you're feeling and what you're going through at the moment, hopefully some of them will come along shortly with words of advice and support.

In terms of supporting your grandchildren, it's important to prioritise your own health and well-being while also considering their needs. You may want to explore options for additional support, such as respite care services or assistance from other family members or friends.

There are various organisations and support groups available that provide assistance and guidance to individuals facing similar situations. Your healthcare provider or local community resources may be able to provide information on these services. We too have a page on our website with advice on what you can do to help yourself while navigating these difficult times.

I hope this helps a little.

Last but not least, please remember we're always around for when you need a chat.

All the best,

Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

Thanks,  Renata. Just knowing there is someone listening helps. Unfortunately the family is rather scattered, and I am usually the support for the youngest grandchildren, who lost their Mum to leukaemia. Littlest granddaughter was 1 at the time, and autistic grandson was 5. We moved house to be near enough to provide respite care, since we don't drive. So far, my husband has retreated behind his usual stoic facade, and is leaving it up to me to organise everything - standard operating procedure for our household. Hopefully, will get more help once we have a treatment plan in place, but at the moment I am in that limbo land between diagnosis and prognosis.