I know you are not going to like this but you are way ahead of so many other people with Cancer you really have very little to worry about. I go for Chemo every two weeks and no matter how bad I feel going there and seeing so many people worse off than me is a great way to put things in perspective. I have Liver and bowel Cancer which cant be cured but thats Ok. It is what it is and I deal with it every day. You are a lucky man to have a cure and I am sure a few miles down the road you will appriciate that. I wish you all the best and a quick recovery.

Hi , I’ve just read your post and totally agree with what you said . My husband has stage 4 liver cancer which stemmed from bowel cancer . I was just wondering how you’re dealing with it as I’m struggling with my husbands outlook on it all .

Hi, sorry to hear about your husband liver cancer is the worst.

I was on immune therapy as well as Chemo and it was really hard with all the side effects.

My condition is not curable so at the moment I have chemo every two weeks in order to keep it from getting worse.

I have a tumour in my bowel and ten matatarses in my liver. My outlook is to enjoy all the time I have left with all the energy I can muster.

I also put a blog on my Facebook page explaining to everyone all what I have been through both emotionally and physically.

I have had a lot of support both from friends and strangers which has helped a great deal.

Your emotions are all over the place from 'why me'' to 'why not me''.

I try to do the same in my life now as I did before the cancer was found and so far it is working pretty well.

I go to the gym three times a week even if I feel like ***.

I go because I meet up with old friends and I always manage to do some exercise. Which is a must if you want to stay active.

I go out for dinner, lunch or breakfast with different friends and as I live alone meeting up with people is aq big plus.

I think your husband is like a lot of men who choose to ignore the problem and so a lot of the things that need to be said and done will fall on you.

Macmillen support is very good and they will talk to your husband about his situation and give you advice on how to deal with the every day things that need to be done.

I am eighty three years old and live alone on a Holiday park near Macclesfield. I drive myself to any hospital appointments or Doctors. Do my own shopping and cleaning and all in all life is pretty good.

I have a nice home and garden, feed the birds every morning. Sit and listen to their songs and apprieciate all I have.

I have been with family members who died of Cancer when they died and so have no fear of death itself. I just have no wish to go there for a while yet.

When I was eleven years old my Uncle Jack was dying from a tumour on his brain, it was 1951. His bed was downstairs and he had invited all his family to his home. We were all there and he thanked us for coming recited the 23rd psalm then closed his eyes and went to sleep.

I did not know it then but it had a profound effect on me and later I realised it took away my fear of death.

In my early twenties I sat with my grandmother who told me it was her time and how much she loved me. Held her hand while she went to sleep never to awake again.

Life plays tricks on us and its how we deal with it that makes the difference.

I have spoken to other men who have had the same as me and gave them some comfort as best I could.

If your husband would like to talk to me its no problem as we are in the same boat.

Enjoy every minute you have together but dont take it all on your own shoulders.

There is lots of help out there so make use of it.

I wish you both all the luck in the world and the strength to deal with it.

I am in hospital tomorrow having my Chemo for two hours. Then they plug a tube into the pump on my chest and a bottle of Chemo in my pocket for 56 hours.

When that's gone I am good for another two weeks.  HAPPY  DAYS

Oh bless you , what an amazing outlook you have , you brought a lump to my throat . If only my husband would have an ounce of your positivity . He was diagnosed with liver and stomach cancer 3 years ago , it actually metastasized from bowel cancer that he was diagnosed with initially but had surgery which was successful to remove the tumor and part of his colon . He recovered well but after having a follow up scan the tumors in his liver and stomach lining was discovered . He’s been having chemotherapy and immunotherapy, tablet form and through a pic line . To cut a long story short after an appointment with his Oncologist last December it was decided that the chemo was no longer working and that his tumors were growing and more pronounced which was an absolute shock and we were devastated. He no longer visits the Chemo Unit , nurses come to the house to take his bloods and the tablets he’s been given now he’s been told that if they work they’ll do so for 6 months , the tablets are delivered by courier to our house . I’m really struggling at the moment and am scared about the future. I wish you all the very best and thank you for taking the time to reply to my post .

Sounds like you have had had to be in charge of a lot that has been going on. Obviously your husband has also gone through a lot too.

Dont worry about your future though there is a ton of help out there and when the time comes I am sure you will be able to handle it.

Its a fact that women live longer than men and our country houses can attest to that when widows desend on them in their thousands.

You women are taught from a very young age to take of things and you do it pretty well.

We are all headed for the same place in the end but for now make as many memories as you can and not of the illness but the good things that have gone on in your life.

Remind your husband of the good times and tell him God will take care of him as wellas all his family members who went before him.

There is a poem you may like to read or listen to. Its called ''If tomorrow starts without me'' its on youtube and well worth listening too.

Please message me if I can be of any help in the future about anything.

GOD BLESS YOU BOTH

Hi , I’ve just listened to If tomorrow starts without me , what beautiful words and so meaningful, it did make me cry though.

Hi, I hope life is not being too unkind to myou and you are finding the strenth to deal with it. Have not done a post last week as my treatment was as normal  with not many side effects.

I have two hours of Chemo and then a pump connected to my chest for 56 hours or from Thursday until Saturday.

I have that every two weeks for a tumour in my bowel and ten cancers in my Liver.

I was told that three of the cancers in my Liver are getting larger so we will seewhere I am next week when I get the results of my blood tests.

Anyway, as I have no control over it there is no point in worrying.

I will carry on living my life as normal as possible .

So, today I am meeting a friend for breakfast at a Cavery near where i live, near Macclesfield.

They do a really good buffet breakfast so its all good.

Keep your chin up and face whatever comes no matter what.

However bad things go it will pass and the sun will come out and smile down on us.

GOD BLESS.

Roy

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Hi , ok I understand completely and have done what you suggested.

kind regards,

Bev.

Sorry to hear about your Cancer but as one in two people get some sort of Cancer in their lives I think you are going to be just fine.

As you say its treatable and non agressive so you are on a winner from the start.

You will go through all kinds of emotional torments but that is normal with any illness.

Please try and stay as positive as you can it really helps your illness. Try and live your life as normal as possible and dont be afraid to speak out how you are feeling about it.

I live alone and my friends are all still working so it can be lonely sometimes but I meet up with different ones for lunch and although I have Liver and Bowel Can which are not curable, I still go to the gym two or three times a week.

I also go out for dinner and visit some friends in their homes when asked.

I get out somewhere every day even if its only a little shopping.

Look at your Cancer as a trick life has played on you and deal with it as that.

Its temporary and you know it will pass. Your life may be a little more complicated but you are here alive and able to confront whatever comes.

Yesterday a friend of mine was told he had advanced liver Cancer and told there was nothing they can do.

Another friend has a rare type of Cancer so cant get a prognosis.

A friend of a friend was told he had Cancer and died with a week.

These are all true stories and I have more if you wish to hear them.

You are one of the LUCKY ones i assure you.

Embrace your problem and meet it head on and you will come out the other side astronger man for it.

Message me if you want to chat or ring Macmillen support. They are very helpful in many ways and can tell you who you can speak too or even give you advice on how to deal with the emotional side of it.

You can get depressed and side effects from your treatment but it will all go away in time and you will think why did I worry.

Little Chinese proverb.

WHY WORRY.

If you cant change things there is no point in worrying. If you can change things you have nothing to worry about.

GOD BLESS and Good luck.

Roy