My mum

Hello everyone . My mum who’s only 52 has recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. I’m mid 20’s myself and an only child still trying to get my head around what’s just happened the past few days. 

I know the word cancer but when it’s YOUR MUM it changes everyone especially the family dynamic. My mum and dad have been married for 35 years and have worked so hard like everyone else for what they have. I have a great relationship with both parents and are lucky to have them. 

Me, mum and my dad were sitting in London waiting for results , all laughing smiling as we thought it would be oh it’s fatty tissue. To be told “ Unfortunately you have breast cancer” words I never thought I would hear. My mum switching off and my dad looking at me thinking “ what do we do?” 

We’ve got to go back to London for more biopsy’s as more might be found. I’m trying to be strong and be supportive to my mum (god knows what she’s thinking) I don’t know how to cope because I know I need to look after myself and keep powering through. 

many people who have gone through cancer or family members or friends I can only send my love to you all because this is a horrible feeling . 

surgery is a must but until we wait for more results if it has spread elsewhere we do not know more than that. 

I feel like I need to talk to someone I am so angry , confused , exhausted. 

thank you . My prayers and thoughts are with everyone 

  • Hi M1998,

    A very warm welcome to our forum.

    I am so sorry to hear why you're here and know just what a shock this diagnosis must have been. You are going through one of the worst stages of a cancer journey at present. Not knowing the full story and having to wait for further tests is always a worrying time. Irrespective of the outcome, you'll all feel better once you know exactly what you are dealing with. The way that you are feeling is perfect;ly normal, as a cancer diagnosis affects the entire family.

    I am glad to hear that you are a close family and I'm sure that you and your dad will be a great support for your mum. Don't be afraid to talk to one another. When life throws us challenges like this, we usually manage to find the strength to overcome them.

    I have had 2 bouts of breast cancer within a year of each other. That was 14 years ago. I lost my mum to secondary breast cancer, which had spread to her bone, brain, liver and lungs and I am always here to talk if you need to.

    Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • Hi Jolamine,

    Thank you very much that’s means a lot. We went to London yesterday where my mum had her second biopsy. Bless her she didn’t like it and caused a lot of pain . We receive the results on the 19th of January. 

    hopefully from this date a plan will come into place of my mums treatment and we can start to work more out. 

    I am so sorry to hear about that. Hope you’re ok. 

    I will keep you posted xx

  • Hi M1998,

    I am sorry to hear that your mums biopsy was painful. Let's hope that it clarifies the situation for her.

    I look forward to your update.


    Kind regards,

    Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx