Newly diagnosed with colorectal cancer

Hello everyone, thank you for taking the time to read this. I’m 38 years old and have just been diagnosed with stage 3 colon cancer. I went for my consultation last week for treatment plan and was shocked with the outcome. Unfortunately as it spread to a nearby node I am having surgery to remove my bowel and a permanent colostomy bag and chemo to follow. 

I am so scared of surgery and I can’t seem to process anything. I’m just feeling very numb and angry. I have lost my appetite and finding it hard to sleep even though I’m so tired. Are these normal reactions to this? I lost my dad at the age of 58 to secondary brain cancer after colorectal cancer and so worried I’m following in his footsteps. 
thank you for reading as I know you are all facing your difficult journeys. 

  • Hello Warby85

    I'm so sorry to hear about your recent diagnosis. It's obviously a very difficult time for you and it's perfectly natural that you're experiencing a rollercoaster of emotions right now. I know that many of our members who have received a cancer diagnosis would agree that things like sleep difficulties and loss of appetite are a normal part of the process. 

    It can help to talk to someone about how you're feeling and to chat through some of the concerns and questions that you have. If you've been allocated a clinical nurse specialist then don't be afraid to contact them. Alternatively you're most welcome to speak with one of our nurses who I know will be happy to listen and offer any advice, information, and support they can. They're available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040. 

    We do have some members here in the Cancer Chat community who have been through treatment for bowel cancer and hopefully, some of them will post to share their experiences and words of advice with you soon. You might also like to have a look at the Bowel Cancer UK website where they have information about a wide range of support services available. 

    I know this is a scary time for you Warby85. Try not to look too far ahead nor to trawl the internet for information as both these things often leave people feeling more anxious. Take each day as it comes and lean on those around you for support. You're welcome to keep posting here on the forum if it helps to have somewhere to write down how you're feeling; we'll do our best to support you. 

    Sending you my best wishes for a smoothly surgery and swift recovery, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator