Hi Alpha110-,

A very warm welcome to our forum.

I am sorry to hear about your wife's possible diagnosis and hope that her biopsy results disprove this. You will find that waiting for results is always a worrying time and a time when our over-active imaginations go into overdrive. Your wife is probably terrified at present. Most of us get frustrated by well-meaning family and friends uttering placatory words at this time. You will be a great help by just being there for her, listening to her worries and supporting her through this nightmare. Can you attend her appointments with her? This is a great help, when she is receiving results, as we don't tend to take in all that is said during a consultation, especially if the news is bad.

I had 2 bouts of breast cancer, within a year of one another and was absolutely terrified at first, as I had already lost my mum to secondary breast cancer, and I was convinced that I would go down the same road. I found it helpful to draw up 2 copies of any questions that I had for my consultant. When attending a consultation, I gave my hubby one and I kept the other. As I asked the questions, he wrote down the answers. It is a known fact that we can forget up to 80% of such conversations before we leave the hospital grounds, so these replies were a great aide memoire. What ages are your family? It is always difficult to break such news to loved ones. I have found that the more positive you can be about the outcome, when breaking the news, the better they will usually take it. It is easier to do this, once you have all the results to hand.

How is your wife feeling at present? She is likely to feel very tired, if she does need treatment, so any help with household chores will be greatly appreciated.

Please keep in touch and let us know how her biopsy goes. We are always here for both of you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine 

Hi Alpha110-,

A very warm welcome to our forum.

I am sorry to hear about your wife's possible diagnosis and hope that her biopsy results disprove this. You will find that waiting for results is always a worrying time and a time when our over-active imaginations go into overdrive. Your wife is probably terrified at present. Most of us get frustrated by well-meaning family and friends uttering placatory words at this time. You will be a great help by just being there for her, listening to her worries and supporting her through this nightmare. Can you attend her appointments with her? This is a great help, when she is receiving results, as we don't tend to take in all that is said during a consultation, especially if the news is bad.

I had 2 bouts of breast cancer, within a year of one another and was absolutely terrified at first, as I had already lost my mum to secondary breast cancer, and I was convinced that I would go down the same road. I found it helpful to draw up 2 copies of any questions that I had for my consultant. When attending a consultation, I gave my hubby one and I kept the other. As I asked the questions, he wrote down the answers. It is a known fact that we can forget up to 80% of such conversations before we leave the hospital grounds, so these replies were a great aide memoire. What ages are your family? It is always difficult to break such news to loved ones. I have found that the more positive you can be about the outcome, when breaking the news, the better they will usually take it. It is easier to do this, once you have all the results to hand.

How is your wife feeling at present? She is likely to feel very tired, if she does need treatment, so any help with household chores will be greatly appreciated.

Please keep in touch and let us know how her biopsy goes. We are always here for both of you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine