I've heard people say this is just temporary and sometimes you can get a reversal ,did they mention that to you ??

Hi Jenny3109

Thank you for responding, yes this was advised but temp or not it is something I am against. It stems from my mother having a stoma and all the issues that came with it, the accidents, the odour, the depression :(

I can fully understand that you'd think in this day and age there would be an alternative to it ,it appears from what you say that the op can't go ahead without your agreement to having it ,I think if it was me I wouldn't be happy about it but as long as it was only temporary I'd find ways to cope for a period of time ,I know some don't get that choice and they remain permanent ,I hope all goes as well as possible for you Pip ,I really do x

Absolutely!, thank you I need to find the coping mechanism.

Keep in touch its a good place to have a chat Best Wishes .

Hi Pip21, I am 17 days post bowel operation. I was lucky enough not to need a stoma. Where my cancer  was positioned I didn’t even have to see the stoma nurse before surgery. The stoma nurse did com e to see me the morning of surgery to mark where the bag would go just incase. I went in to theatre in a good position compared to some and it was the first thing I asked when I woke -do  have a stoma? Luckily I did not!. l  do feel your pain and stress about having one but I just kept thinking would I prefer to live with a stoma or not live at all? I’m not sure when and what happened to your mum but I have a coupl o of friends that have them and it’s no bother to them. Hopefully yours will just be temporary . I saw the consultant on 20th December and had my op on 12th January.. Good luck and I hope you don’t have to wait to long .