Yes that's like me I'll do whatever they are suggesting- hope your infection has healed. I believ mine is quite a large lump too 

Yea it's really strange isn't it- I've been so up and down/ emotional hopeful/frightened- the waiting inbetween is horrific. Yes definitely support one another- such a a stressful time- are you waiting for your treatment plan x

Ladies,

I am so sorry to hear that you are all at similar stages of waiting. Most of us 'old timers' would agree that this was the worst stage of our cancer journey - the not knowing is awful. Irrespective of any outcome, you will feel better once you start your treatment and can see a plan in place.

This is not the easiest of trips and we'll all possibly react differently to treatment, but it is all doable and will soon be over. I have had 2 bouts of breast cancer, a year apart. I was diagnosed 13 years ago and I still lead a busy and fulfilling life. Here's hoping that you will all do the same!

Please keep in touch and let us know how you all get on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Thank you so much for responding- I really appreciate. Especially your positivity! I like to hear peoples stories as it fills with with hope. I have a tough journey ahead but with a bigger picture I feel relieved. The terrifying waiting stage has by far been the worst thing I've ever experienced x x

Hi Boymamanci,

This is not going to be an easy ride with 2 little ones to look after. Do you have any family or friends who can help out and support you? Don't turn down any offers just now. Strange as it may seem, you have to be your number one priority until you kick this into touch.

I believe that many of us would agree that this is one of the worst experiences of our lives. I lost my mum to secondary breast cancer, which had spread toher liver, lungs, brain and bone. Threatments have improved so much since then. There is just no comparison between the diagnosis, treatment and aftercare, which we both experienced.

Our imagiations tend to go into overdrive at this stage, which doesn't help either. The advice we usually give people is to try and keep busy, but with 2 little ones, I don't expect that this will be a problem.

We're always here if we can help out in any way.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi there just to say, I was new to this just over a year now, and had exactly the same as you, I started with a sore elbow which doctor didn't pick up on, and had been on hormone replacement patches, to which it fed my cancer, he was a kind understanding surgeon, and I was told I could undergo a reconstruction, after chemo and radiotherapy, it was all new to me, losing my hair and what to expect, but it's already started to grow back, and my eyebrows, and so forth, the nurses were amazing to, I have to have regular mamograms now, and have to take tablets to stop. Any estrogen being in my body, and they removed 3 lymph nodes, the breast surgery was all good as well got a good clearance, and managed to get it all, it was the fear of the unknown and I was told, the same day as I had my biopsy, but told its quite common, and in the milk duct it's quite contained, so good luck and you will be fine, they were all amazing and talked me, through everything, hope this helps

Thanks for responding Kate, yes it most definitely helps and appreciate it. I'm finding it helpful to talk to other women on similar situations as let's face it we understand each other better. I'm glad your all clear! 

Its been a year now, and was told I could have reconstruction have you been given this option, but met a different surgeon who said it cant be done, so was far from happy, but luckily I have got in with my surgeon who took my breast of, before he leaves, i was not very happy but trust me you will be fine and the staff were Amazing, i. Found radiotherapy the hardest, my skin was really burnt, after stopping the treatment, but my son bought me le Roche poche cream it's, amazing. For scar healing and treatment, good luck you will be ok

Yes me please go back and get a second opinion it's not true at all, ive lymph nodes out, and told before surgery yes it can be done, then saw someone yesterday who said its not possible no excuse but to say who told you that and it was before surgery, it can be done my original breast surgeon leaves in 2 weeks am going back to him to get reffered to someone else before he leaves, i have got 1 normal one and one removed, so yes am with you on that, so wrong especially after a year