Leanne 

welcome 

a diagnosis is a shock , I had BC last July o had lumpectomy and sentil node removed then a 2 nd operation removing 30 nodes from my arm recovery was very speedy I had radiotherapy in nov and now take a hormone tablet tamoxifen I'm back to my normal crazy life 

T the beginning it's not a nice time I was up and down like a yo yo  but time goes quick you won't feel like this long 

I can't connect on chemo as I didn't have it in the end I rushed gif my eyebrows microbladed and bought wigs but my score came back it wasn't required ,

Take each day at a time lovely 

always here to chat big hugs lovr Lara ️

Hi Leanne1202

I was diagnosed yesterday with stage 2, grade 3 breast cancer and have been told I will need chemo then surgery.  Sounds a bit like you? 

I cannot stop crying, am feeling totally overwhelmed.  I am never ill, only been in hospital to give birth and rarely off work so this is a complete bombshell.

Do you feel same? Am hoping this initial panic will go away but the thought of chemo is freaking me out

I know I need to get a grip and once I have told my family & friends this should help but right now I feel so pathetic.

Sorry I am not being very positive right now, hope this will change! 

As you say we will get through this xx

Alison 

welcome 

sorry you have had a diagnosis I was the same it's hard to accept as I had never been sick I am the one who takes care of everybody so last July I was diagnosed but fully back to normal now the way you are feeling now won't last you do get your mind around it accept it and move on lovely I promise you 

big hugs love Lara ️

Hi Allison yes that's the same as me but we got this!! I'm a stubborn bloody female and I won't let this get me down?! 
 

the consultant was fab yesterday said to me this is for us to be selfish and be looked after! I've not told my son all the details yet but I'm having a week away on Friday Tenerife with parents, was obv booked before, and I need if!  This is just a small part of our journey and a chapter that will be closed soon!!  Remember u can be a victim of cancer or a survivor!!!  It's a mind game!!  I've been at work since being told because I couldn't be at home!!! Chemo is scaring me too, I'm a 44 young woman who is looking to meet someone but right now I'm focusing on health, I'm terrified of losing my hair but no what it grows back!!  The most important thing is we keep the strength to fight yhis!!! Don't get me wrong I cry but I won't be beaten! I had to get some Valium last night from doc as was a bit anxious, what a difference! Speak to GP! 
 

we got this!!!  Xxx

Thanks Allison!!  Keep strong!!  The waiting is the worst bit x

Hi there,

I completely understand what your going through! I was diagnosed with BC in Nov and have had a lumpectomy and I'm 8 rounds into weekly chemo, another 4 to go.

I was terrified of the effects and losing my hair..I'm glad say I still have 70% of my hair after using the cold cap and  have felt ok! It's not a walk in the park by any means but it's doable, my main effects have been tiredness and a rash on my face but I've worked (from home) preety much full time. 
I know it's a shock and your mind goes crazy but once you start you know your on the path to kicking this thing! 
I wish you both the best and happy to answer any  questions you have as I know I asked a lot before I started.

Sending love 

D xx

Aww this has filled me with so much hope!! I can cope with 70% hair!!? I left NHS in may last year and went agency so don't get paid when I'm off unfortunately so I'm hoping to get my job back!!!  Spoke about benefits today and I am entitled to SSP whixh won't even cover my car!!! That's a worry 

But yes I'm under no illusion it's going to be tough, but I'm even tougher!! My mind has went crazy, catastrophising etc but that's all so so normal!! I'm a mental health nurse and couldn't practice what I preach I terms of thinking!! I just don't like the thought of being unwell/sick as I hate asking for help but it's all about me just now ‍♀️‍♀️

thanks for the reply!!  I appreciate it xx

I'm the same, I hate asking for help but I've found most of my friends and family want to be involved so ask!! Put yourself in their position and I bet you would do anything to help your friend if they were going through this. 
it's amazing how tough we can be when we have to...you have got this, it's just a bump in a long road.

speak to your BC nurse and you may be entitled to other benefits if unable to work, or maybe work might be understanding and let you work less hours? See how you go, not everyone is sick and really unwell, do t put to much pressure on yourself, if there's one time to be selfish it's now xxxx 

I only work agency so I don't have any work at moment! My old boss has said to apply for my old job due to me being able to get paid! 
 

yes that's what my consultant said, time to he selfish! We will be fine!!! Another chapter go our journey of life xxx