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Husband has just been diagnosed with oesophageal cancer

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My husband 58yr old has just been diagnosed with esophageal cancer,we are now awaiting course of treatments,he's being amazingly positive I'm on the other hand am falling apart,I feel our future has been robbed,I feel like I'm drowning,I feel why him? We have good support but the more you tell people the real it gets and I don't want it to be real,I want our life back,It feels  like it happens to other people

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    Hello 

    My Husband too was diagnosed on the 31st Jan with oesophageal cancer. I am sorry to hear you are going through this unreal experience. 
    All your thoughts and feelings have resonated with me and my Husband is being very positive and like you my world fell apart. 
    I think for me it was the shock of it. As you say it not real it always happens to other people.  A routine visit to the dentist. As the days have passed and the shock has subsided and the treatment plan is in place I am feeling more hopeful. I still cry everyday but try to keep busy. 
    I take one day at a time I do find this helps. Friends and Family will see you through this. 
    I send love and best wishes to you and your Husband. X

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    Hi

    My husband was diagnosed in March and I feel exactly like you. He is 61 and was retiring this year and we had made lots of plans for the future. I still can not quite believe this is happening to us. He has just had his 3rd round of chemo and like your husband is being so brave and positive. I don't know what to say to you to help but just want you to know we are in exact same position and timeline and I am here if you want to discuss anything. Like crab fish says, as time has gone by and treatment has started I definitely feel better and more positive xx

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    My Husbands treatment has just finished. 35 sessions of daily radiotherapy and 3 rounds of chemotherapy. If I look back I can't believe how far he has come. 
    You definitely move into another phase of the journey during treatment. Of course it has been tough and the focus has been on day to day. 
    I look at my Husband daily and am in awe of how he has coped during treatment and I too have to be positive and strong to walk beside him. It wouldn't help him to see me crumble. 
    One day at a time I guess is how we get through it. The hospital in Leeds have been absolutely incredible. 
    Nobody knows or understands your journey. 
    I wish you well and however difficult it gets keep talking

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