Liver Metastases from the Pancreas - mum told she has weeks

Hi all,

I never thought I'd be on here writing this only 2 weeks ago. It's been an absolute whirlwind of emotions over the last week since we not only found out my mum had cancer but that there was nothing that could be done and to spend our time saying our goodbyes. This time last month we'd been out for a meal and in to town for a few drinks after, it's just surreal that was such a short time ago and we had no idea of what was to come. My son is only 6 months old and that's the hardest part, she was a major part of our plans and should of being a part of my sons life. But we are here and I've come to terms that at 29 I'm going to lose my mum who is only 54 to this horrible disease. 
 

However, I don't want her to go without me putting up a bit of a fight for her and making sure I've explored all options. 
 

The nhs and macmillan assure us after I asked for a second opinion, that there's nothing that can be done, but I also know and witnessed at first hand how stretched our service was during my mums stay in hospital and I want to be sure everything was considered and that she wasn't rushed out as a case of no return. They stated they spoke to a specialist and I don't doubt it, but I suppose this post comes out of desperation.
 

Does anyone have experience of pancreatic cancer with liver metastases and was there any hope at an advanced stage? Are there any options or specialists that are available to help prolong life to give her half a chance of at least having a proper chance of a goodbye. Currently she's at home in a nhs provided bed drugged up to the eyeballs and it's heartbreaking to see. No one was prepared for it.

Thanks for taking the time to read.

Dan
 

 

  • Thank you for the replies, it's strange how comforting these replies are.

    It was peaceful thankfully. Due to having my dad up and down all night on Wednesday as my mum didn't know what she wanted and was waking up every 10 minutes, macmillan organised for a sit in carer throughout the night on Thursday. She said my mum was talking and alert and then she fell back to sleep and suddenly her breathing changed. She told my dad who come down and spent her final moments with her. The sit in carer was an absolute god send as without her she may have slipped away and my dad would have found my mum when he next went to check in.
     

    It's been the hardest few days of my life and my mum and dads house just feels so empty without her, sitting there it feels like she's just upstairs sorting the washing out and you expect her to walk through the door, it's surreal. However, I've been ok today and I find myself talking about her a lot which helps massively I feel. It's the most vulnerable I've ever felt but I can't bring my mum back and she wouldn't want me to sit around wishing her back. So I'm going to take each day as it comes, some will be better than others and I'm going to keep her memory alive and make sure my little lad knows everything about his nannan and my hero. 
     

    My thoughts are with everyone who's taken the time to respond to me. This forum massively helps to alleviate that feeling of lonelieness during this time and although it's not a discussion you ever want to be a part of, it's important that we all talk about what we're experiencing!

    Dan

  • Dan 

    sending you strength to get through god bless you and your family .

    love Lara ️

  • Thank you Lara ️ 

    The same goes for you, I wish you all the best. Take care.