Sorry to hear that. Plus, finding out in that manner must be an added shock. Bad enough finding out the more gradual way.

If finances are going to be crippling due to him being self-employed, call Macmillan. They are an absolute God send when it comes to telling you what you can or may be entitled to.

Here's hoping this is as bad as things get as far as shock value goes.

Thankyou I really find it hard to know where to start but we were given a macmillian nurse today tonight feel exhausted will need to ring but I have to drive 2 hours to hospital and spend day because short staff at hospital need to keep going

My husband has recently been treated for bowel cancer. It all must be such a shock right now for you. I have enjured many ups and downs and unexpected bumps in the road. What I can say there is excellent support out there for both you and your husband, macmillan support have been so good, make use of any support you need. There online chat and telephone support helped me enormously as well as support in person.you will be surprised by how you get through this, but get through you will. 

Thankyou just shocking isnt it news had no sleep again but ready to put brave head on for my children think thats the hardest xxxxx

Hiya,

I had colon cancer in Sept 2021, the tumor (a T3) was too large for the camera to pass by it. Later it was found that the colon the surgeon removed showed no spread to nodes or anywhere else, I was stage IIa, N0, M0 (no nodes, no metastases). It was removed by keyhole surgery in Oct. 2021 and I was back in work 2 weeks later. No need for a stoma, despite losing alot of the colon.. My job is home office based, self-employed, in sales, with some driving to clients, (my wife did the driving for me for a while. I had chemo for 6 months but I was still able to work (some off days, but not many, mainly problems with hands and feet swelling).

Stay strong, you can both get through this. All my scans etc for the last 15 months have been fine. It might come back. Who knows. But I know what to expect now and I even manage to forget all about it from time to time! 

Best wishes to you and your husband.

Thank you soo glad you are doing well the mass was large and spread to lymph nodes but he did get it all out we just need to wait for the dreaded results your help is really helping us both just saying you have cancer is the first step

Hiya,

Yes, it's so common, now - apparently one in two of us will be diagnosed with cancer! I had to have chemo, because they found cancer cells in a blood vessel , so 6 months of it, but it wasn't intravenous, it was tablets (Capecitabine). Honestly, the care I received in the NHS was amazing. Yes, they're up to their ears at the moment (they always are) and sometimes you need to give them a gentle nudge (usually an email does the trick!) but, on the whole, I can't complain at all. Just put your trust in them and stay positive. Ignore the internet for the most part. Everything you google will usually be negative and most people, for some reason, will always believe the worst. Yes, I had some dark days and nights and I would sometimes wake up my wife with a cuppa to chat about it at 3am in the morning. But this forum is the only place I go to now on the internet when I want to talk about my illness. 

When I was diagnosed,  I wasn't allowed any visitors during my 5 days hospital stay, due to covid rules (to 19th Oct. 2021). At the same time, my wife was living with her mum who was about to pass away ( on 4th Nov. 2021, she was 91). Very bad times. But we got though it. My daughter stayed with me and my other 2 sons would visit. Who knows, with my mother-in-law so poorly, perhaps it helped me to not be too 'self-centred' and that was a good thing? Believe it or not, I just spent two weeks on the sofa watching the tv until I felt I could go back to work (self-employed, so couldn't wait too long. I actually found work very therapeutic). 

Best wishes,

David

Thank you yes we have a lot going on he is have awful pain left side away frop operation site so waiting for scan its hard to feel positive did that so now just take the blows you feel alone we are keeping people away from hospital last thing he needs cough and cold rushed in at christmas with blood clots came out with covid not sure this time we are doing right thing it's exhausting travelling hour each way think visitors and kids would cheer him up just waiting for this new scan baby steps I realize and not to look ahead thankyou soo much