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A BLEHHH kind of day, strength in numbers

Lula
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I, like many of you amazing fighters here, is having one of those "Blehhh" days. One where thoughts keep coming in waves. How do I tell loved ones, why do I have to wait so long for results, what if it's spread, what if i loose my hair, what if treatment doesn't work, and many more thoughts amongst us.

So I thought I would reach out to each and every one of you that is feeling the same. I want us all to lift each other up and to say...

It's OK to feel sad or blehh today, you're not alone, we are all here to help and offer support. Don't feel ashamed to cry, be kind to yourself and know that you are strong. Be brave and know that you have the will to fight this.

Surround yourself in whatever makes you happy. Take that offer of help, a hug, a sympathetic ear, a shoulder to cry on. Today is one day, tomorrow will be a better day. 

Trust in yourself and realise just how powerful your will is. Nothing will hold you down and we are all here to hold you up.

Sending positive vibes, strength in numbers and hugs to you all. For each person that this message helps today will help me feel better in return xx

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    Sending love & strength. With you on the BLEHH today   ️ 

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    Hi Lula,

    Thank you for such an uplifting post . We all have "Blehhh" days and that is what we are here for - to support one another.

    Positive vibes, strength and hugs are things that we all need in bucket loads. I have no doubt that your message has helped many of us here and I sincerely hope that this will make you feel better too.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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    Awww thank you. It turned into a very emotional day having broke the news to one of my eldest children. Posts and support here is so beneficial and I never feel alone.

    May the blahh days be few and far between for us all.

    Hugs and love to all xx

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    Same page today, I feel like I am having serious bipolar episodes at the moment , I've been very angry today, and feel alone even though it's a busy house,5 children,2 dog's and 2 house rabbits!! I'm disappointed with the lack of help from my older girls,I'm not playing the victim and I'm trying to be strong, but everything and everyone is p,....g me off, they just don't get it (understandably) my mum and older ones are like, it's gone now, you've had your opp so try not to worry! In my head I'm like, I've just had my right breast cut off! And I'm waiting for results for my follow up appointment! Radio therapy tablets or chemo!! That's kinda worrying me a little bit! Right rant over and thank you xx 

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    Hi Lula,

    I am so sorry to hear that you had the unenviable task of breaking the news to one of your children today. I hope that they took it as well as could be expected. Can I ask what family you have and what ages they are? Breaking news like this is never easy.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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    Hi Lindsay,

    I am so sorry to hear how you are feeling today. It might be worth sitting the family down and explaining that just because the cancer is out, it's not gone straight away. Your treatment could well leave you feeling exhausted and needing help for quite a few months yet. Unfotunately, if we mums let the children away with everything, they won't think of helping out, because 'Mum has always done everything in the past'. - sometimes we can be our own worst enemies!

    Can I ask what ages your children are -  are they old enough to be a real help to you? Here's hoping that tomorrow will be a better day for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

     

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    Awww thankyou for responding,my children are 20, 18, 14,8, 6, yes you are 100% right,I have tried to keep everything as normal as normal can be, so my outbursts come as a bit of a shock, however I'm feeling emotions feeling and thoughts I've never felt before! It's a cliché but, I'm not ill,I don't feel pain, it's not visible, therefore it's not happening in there eyes, inside I'm holding alot in,but hey hoo tomorrow is another day, thanks so much, I wish you love hope and faith xx 

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    Hi Lindsay,

    This is all part of the rollercoaster effect, that we nearly all experiece on our cancer journey. I am normally a strong and sensible person, but my emotions were all over the place at the time. I'd not felt anything like them before either. 

    Not everyone has side-effects from hormone, chemo or radiotherapy treatment, but quite a few of us do.  I hope that you won't, but you need to be prepared in case. Your 3 older children are old enough that they should be a great help to you. It won't do them any harm to take over your role for a while - it might even make them appreciate all that you do! Please be kind to yourself and let them take over for a while.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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    Xxxx love hope and faith xx 

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