Metastatic kidney cancer

I'm Corrin and I'm 39. Was originally told that I have cancer last Thursday and they were confident it was bone cancer.

So, I had an ultrasound yesterday followed by a CT scan and the hospital emailed my GP who I went to go see today. Turns out it's kidney cancer which has spread to my lungs, liver and bones. I go to hospital tomorrow for a biopsy and whatnot. 

The only "proper" symptom I have that indicates possible kidney issues is a swollen hard mass on the left side of my abdomen. I've also lost a lot of weight and I'm anaemic. My GP took blood today to check my calcium levels. 

To say I'm devastated would be an understatement. I'm absolutely terrified. It's basically stage 4 already and I don't know how I'm going to even start to fight this. I have 2 daughters who are 19 & 14 and the thought of leaving them just makes me so unbelievably sad. I've been on the verge of tears since I got home from the doctors a few hours ago. 

I do have amazing support from my family and friends which obviously helps a lot but I feel like this is happening to someone else and that it can't be happening to me. I'm 40 next month and feel like I might not even be here for that. I'm scared to sleep in case I don't wake up. I don't know. I'm just scared. 

  • Hi Corrin, 

    I'm so sorry to head of your diagnosis. First of all, You absolutely will be here for your 40th birthday. 

    It's such a big diagnosis to take, but a positive in this situation is  that this cancer has not yet been subjected to any treatment. Cancer, at any stage, tends to respond better when it's a first treatment, and worse when it's a recurrence of the cancer. It's not a perfect art but it is a general indication, This works in your favor in terms of treatment plans. 

    Additionally to this, you have age on your side. Try not to look at too many statistics, as lots of the cancer statistics are in very elderly people, who are less able to cope with intense treatment plans.

    The fact remains, that stage 4 kidney cancer absolutely can be cureable, and you have two factors working in your favour.

    Gear yourself up for a fight, eat clean, prepare that you might need to try a few different treatment plans until you find the right one for your particular cancer. 

    Lastly of all, you are not in this alone, treatments are improving, more and more people are living with cancer, and less are dying from cancer. 

    You can do this. xx

     

  • Have faith in the team at the hospital, they will give you the best treatment for your cancer and plenty of people are living a good life. There's support on this forum too

    wishing you all the best

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  • Hi Corrin

    I have someone very close to me with the same, i thought you should know we are going into the 4th year of maintenance drugs to keep the cancer at bay and things are going ok.

    I just thought you should know to give you hope!