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emma2001
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I had chest pain a few weeks ago and had to go to a&e. There they found it was actually a problem with my breast and everything that happened after that is just too hard for me to think about.

What I'm shocked about though is that the pain happened while I was at uni and it was the worst thing I had ever gone through. I thought I was having a heart attack. All my friends, colleagues and staff witnessed it. I haven't gone back. Not one of them has reached out to ask how I am now!!

Is this normal for me to be upset about? I mean I could've died for all they know. I'm young aswell, I shouldn't be ill for this long or have this much time off. I just don't understand how no one cares.

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    Hey Emma... Firstly, I send my love and hope for your recovery. Like you, my wife received the news on the 19th October and the bluntness in which we were informed was f*****g demoralising. It was honestly heartbreaking to see how we were treated like a process and then turfed out after being given a generic message of "Be Strong".. after shattering us to shards. Following this, It was on Wednesday i think we received a call from a support nurse to see how she/we were getting on. to be honest, by then we had levelled with ourselves and motivated and promised each other that we are going to FIGHT this head on and rip it apart. 

    Emma, forget the past... I AM TELLING YOU, YOU ARE GOING TO SMASH THIS! We are going to make cancer our B***H!

    Consider this a litmus test with your friends, the ones that stand by you now are the real ones.

     

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    Thank you. It really does help getting a reply from someone who understands.

    I'm so sorry about your wife and I send my love and hope for her recovery aswell. Gosh 19th October was a bad day for me aswell because I tested positive for covid that day and had lasting effects since then. Before that, I was never ill. I always thought I had long covid until this. I can't believe it is already October again now. This whole year, I have just felt awful. I wish I could've done something nice in the sunny weather and can't believe it is already cold again.

    I'm sorry you were informed in such a blunt way, that was the last thing you had needed and I would have hated that so much. I am thankful I was informed in a caring way. The staff at the hospital are all really different but when one of them is kind and caring, it really does make a difference.

    I think I'm going to contact the Teenage Cancer Trust as I'm under 24 and I am hoping to get support. I feel in need of that right now mainly mentally. It feels hard being in adult wards and mainly seeing people double/ triple my age.

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    Hello?.

     

    When you say chest pain, it means many many things as i experienced myself as a male. from heart attack due to me having a heart block and family history to esophagus spasms and later it turned out to be galbladder stones and after gallbladder ops, the pain returned as before only on my back instead, and finally told it was spinal stenoses, duration of pain 3 years and on going, now i lost my voice and got it back and swallowing issues still here.... was .refered  urgently to ENT just last week. i haven not given up still.

    Back to you  my child, if you expect people you see everyday and drink with every day to care about you and they fail then all you need to feel is that they are cold hearted people, do not be upset ,the fact that you wanted them to care shows that it  is in  your good nature and they are not, so when you return treat them like  customers  or shop keepers ,no more no less. if they ask speak the truth and say it is not nice, do not be aftraid.

    As for the hospital, your GP is the one who cares for you and therefore should call you and offer  you a care plan. usually a nurse will call you and try to find out more info. each Trust and practice works different ( i worked in many Trusts in   support )

    As for your breasts issues, what was the exact  diagnose? because each type requires specific treatment.

    The outcome?

    You are the outcome, if you feel you can fight this and beat it then you can ,you are young and just need a boost from loved ones. It is not always easy but can be, Sadly i lost 2 uncles and 4 cousins to various cancers, but one cousin  who is like my sister spoted cervical cancer  early and went to  see my brother , my Brother( a surgeon) performed a surgery  in  AnE for her  that night and she never looked back since 2000. she had few kids now . it was an ambarassing surgery due to her being our cousin.but who cares when it comes to saving lives you put that first,

    All I can say is anything is possible,just be strong and determined. God is your creator,he created you and has the power to change things, doctors are only tools not miracles.

    Bless you 

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    Hi. Oh my gosh, I'm sorry you had to experience all these issues. I'm glad you still haven't given up. 

    My mindset has gotten better. I'm just doing everything I can (like being conscious of my symptoms, seeking medical help, eating healthy, prioritising sleep etc) and just think whatever is going to happen will happen.

    I've been to my GP practice 3 times this week. They've been very kind to me this whole year thankfully and I like going to there. My physio therapist in particular has been really empathetic and motivating and I'm excited to see her again in a few weeks. I was also nervous to ask my family dr for a sick note for 2 weeks but she encouraged me to take things easy and said I can always call if I have any problems or if I need my sick note extending. I said 'thank you, take care' at the end and she almost laughed. I'm guessing she's not used to patients being nice when they are going through so much.

    Thanks for the tips for when I go back to uni. I've realised it does mean a lot to someone when you check up on them. There was one girl who wasn't in that day when I had the pain as she was ill, and I remember last year, she would always check up on how I am whenever I got ill. I messaged her to ask how she was and she seemed very thankful and I've told her what's happened to me (she's the only person I've told other than my family). She seemed very concerned and I am glad I've been able to be empathetic with her illness aswell instead of comparing her with mine because I know it is awful having any illness.

    I'm so sorry you've lost 2 uncles and 4 cousins. It is really hard because no matter how strong we are, we aren't in full control. That is really motivating that your cousin spotted cervical cancer early and has gone on to have a few kids. Was it caught from screening? I'm too young for screening but I have always thought that I'm going to have it as soon as I turn 25 as I feel like it feels reassuring to know that you've done everything you can.

    Thank you. My belief in God has helped me so much this year. It feels really good knowing that when life feels out of control, that God is in control and I can ask for guidance. In my religion, we believe that once we get to the afterlife, we won't remember anything bad in this world and will only remember this life like it was just an afternoon. It has really put things into perspective for me about not holding onto things and that this life is only temporary.

    Thank you, take care.

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