First I send my love and best wishes to you the word itself is scary and god knows you need the support from loved ones, I hope this reaction is shock maybe it has not sunk in yet it's hard for us suffers to take it but speaking from both sides of the fence it's harder for us to hear someone we love has it first reaction is refusal if he dose not hear the words it's not real if he don't acknowledge it dose not exist. When we say cancer others hear the worse news ever I pray for you and I hope your partner becomes more supportive if you need to talk hun I will always listen feel free to mail me on here love and best wishes to you 

shell x x 

Thank you so much for your kind reply. Even just hearing another persons opinion on this makes me feel slightly better about it. I am hoping that as this journey goes further down the line that he might actually realise I need him now more than ever. Thank you again for your reply. I wish you all the best xx 

You more than welcome, people don't like to face the big c word but unfortunately for us we have to face it and then help loved ones deal with it my family was the same until a specialist explained it to them I hope he realises soon if not hun please feel free to message me if you need online support 

sending positive best wishes 

shell

Hi Marie.  My husband reacted in exactly the same way the first time I was diagnosed with breast cancer........I got a cuddle and that was it.  I couldn't believe that he was behaving as if I had nothing worse than a cold or flu.  I was devastated and convinced that he didn't care, but when we spoke about it a couple of years later, he told me that he was so heartbroken that he felt that if he didn't hold his feelings in, he would be completely overwhelmed by them.  His way of coping was by building a wall around himself, but of course that doesn't help the person who has cancer.  It almost broke us up, but we stayed together, and hopefully your husband will realise as time goes by that you need some support.  Good luck, Violet, x