Hello Bernie, so sorry about your diagnosis, and yes, it is normal to feel numb when you are told you have cancer.  It is a huge shock, and at the moment you have not fully processed it.  There is no 'right' or 'wrong' way to feel about something like this, but I can assure you that at some point, the reality will sink in.  Violet, x

Hi Violet , 

thank you for replying. I lost my sister 10 years ago to BC. My mum and the rest of my family are terrified and I think im like this because of that. Also my grown up kids too. It's that old saying ....never thought it would happen to us and now it's struck again. I hope im strong enough to take it when it hits me. 

Bernie xx
 

Hi Bernie,

yes I think the cancer news shocks us and we all react differently.  I can't remember crying until after my op to remove the tumour. Perhaps that was the anaesthetic?  I did feel scared though but even that was kept inside. I wasn't really truly myself and able to say and react as I wanted to for about 4 months after diagnosis. Then I just sobbed and sobbed. It felt such a release! We all express ourselves differently. Not crying or not stopping crying are both fine. Go with gut feelings. 
Good luck!! Stay well x x 

Thank you xx

i hope you are well 

Bernie xx 

Sending love and strength.

Don't worry about how you should think or feel.

Just keep being Bernie.

Xx

Hi Bernie 

I'm laying here awake half the night,  scrolling this chat forum and (stupidly) googeling things.

Just wanted to say I was diagnosed with breast cancer 5 days ago and I think I'm still in shock. It doesn't seem right saying it or typing it. I still struggle to believe it all. Feels like a weird dream happening to someone else.

I've cried on and off. Hoping it will stop soon as just want to start being logical and practical.  

Just wanted to say , there's probably no right way to feel everyone's reactions are different. You probably go into some auto self preservation mode what ever that means to you?

Sending love and positive thoughts xxx

Thank you x 

Thank you so much x

Hi , I am doing exactly the same , no sleep, looking everything up  , I'm exhausted

sending you love and well wishes 

we can do this !! 
bernie xx 

Hi there I've not been on here for ages but something made me look tonight & I saw your post. I felt I had to send you a message.   

I had breast cancer in 2018, had left sided lumpectomy with radio only luckily but was unfortunate to suffer again last year, right side this time. I found 1 lump but after a multitude of scans & biopsies ended up with 3 lumps one of which was triple negative. Like you I felt numb & shock but also really sad & angry it had happened again. Must admit when I was told I'd need chemo this time plus radio I broke down.  

There's no right or wrong way to feel, it's very personal to you.  I finished chemo in March & radio in May & now on the road to recovery. It's been a long road & amongst Covid quite scary at times. I just wanted to say try to let your feelings out as & when they hit you, try to stay as positive as you can & go for walks to keep your strength up. This sure worked for me. 

I've let family & friends in this 2nd time round & they've been so supportive along with a fab husband. He didn't feel he was helping but just a hug when I needed it went a long way. 

I lost my hair with chemo (well hubby ended up shaving it off when I was ready mentally) it was the thing that worried me most but it's been growing back for a few months & looks better than ever! A lovely shade of grey & I'd never have gone this short but love it  

We are all strong & you can do this. One day at a time & as ladies said to me on here in 2018 let's kick cancers butt!! 

You've got this  Stay strong 

Sue xx