Hi Emma, I lost my mum this time last month and I was where you were two years ago. The doctors said it was 'treatable' which we now know doesn't mean curable - we just thought that's what they meant but not so - apparently.

There's no real advice I can give except to spend as much time as you can with her and tell her you love her, don't leave anything to the last moments. One thing you said in the other thread and you're absolutely correct is that you aren't on your own. Painful as it is, a lot of us are going through what you're going through and it - as the Americans says - sucks.

How did I cope? I cried a lot when I could see her deteriorating and there was nothing or any of us could do to stop it and cried when she passed away, saying that, when she did leave us - I would think she's now at peace and yesterday, she came to visit me in a dream. I can never remember dreams usually and the ones I can - there have been a handful in my 50 years with fingers to spare - but yesterday, she came, dressed in her clothes and I said hello to her and she smiled and said hello back and then I woke up but I remembered the dream. She looked happy and now I know she is looking over us and she is happy without this damn lung cancer, take care.