My mother is 87 independent, driving up until 3 weeks ago.

she was being treated for an infection which didn't improve: she came to stay with me to recover but the continued to become muddled; poor communication., possible delirium Taken to my local hospital given more medication. All this time mum remained mobile, self caring but definite change in personality.

we returned to her own GP explaining the symptoms we managed to see him and we were sent to her local hospital for ongoing investigations he feared possible encephalitis.

after several hours mum was scanned, they found a large mass in her frontal lobe.  A discussion would be held  with neurologists at hospital. We were told inoperable, not a candidate for radiotherapy.  Our world, mums world collapsed.  We have been told she only has weeks, she is to be moved to a nursing home, being maintained on low dose of steroids to help with swelling.

my mum continues to look well, self caring on the ward.  It's hard to believe and accept she is unable to independent living

it's the hardest thing I've ever done isto be sat with my parent whilst they were told they are going to die and there's nothing to be done.

I am doing all I can to make what time we have left, filled with memories not just for mum but us as her children.