Well visiting went a little different than expected.  Had to drop my mum and brother off at a&e as per her Dr's orders, she's now been admitted to oncology ward, bit earlier than planned as she was due to meet next week to go through chemo plans.  The tumour on one side is that big it's blocking her bowels, hate seeing her in pain and so uncomfortable.  We prepped the kids just before we arrived, told them she's been unwell so they need to tone down the usual mental behaviour we get when all 4 are together.  Never seen them so well behaved suppose it's a positive.  

I had ovarian surgery in October and my husband managed to visit me for one hour by arrangement with the nurses so we could use a side ward, is the hospital allowing that as being supportive and there for your Mum helps. If not ring her often so she can speak about what's happening to her. It's all a bit shocking for Mum as it's unexpected she's not had time to think and talk about her operation and treatment. 
l hope she's feeling better soon 

susie 

Thank you

She's been admitted for another load of tests, can have visitors if you pre arrange a time slot.

So far she's just had a biopsy surgery wise, they've said the tumour is too big to remove at the minute but are hoping that chemo will shrink it enough to be able to look at removing it.  More scans/ultrasounds are being done to check it hasn't spread elsewhere.

Main problem at the minute is blocking her bowels, nothing one way and anything she eats is coming back the other, so shes in constant pain but weak because she's not been able to eat anything apart from soup now and again.

Don't want to sound selfish in the slightest but this is all happening the same way it did with my dad and I think that's making it harder.  When he was ill I was backwards and forwards for appointments and visits (I live about 70 mile away), now we just can't afford the fuel to keep travelling, even the school run is a stretch some says, makes me feel even worse. My brother is being absolutely amazing, well all my family back up north are.