Help

My dad got diagnosed 5 days ago with lung cancer which has spread to his liver and kidneys.

We are getting so many mixed messages. We know it's not good and I know it's a matter of months from this forum, but nothing has been confirmed we are waiting on a biopsy but I'm not stupid. 
The cancer nurse gives us false hope.I wish and beg it wasn't!
My dad is currently in hospital with pain that they cannot get under control.

I can't cope! I am begging my husband to tell me this is a nightmare that I'll wake up from and everything will be ok, I need my dad he's my rock my world!

I cry all the time? I scream why is this happening!? I have looked for help and found nothing! I got told to wait for his results from the biopsy! 
My friends and family tell me they are there if I need them, but then I tell them I'm hurting it's like I can't breath, I'm struggling get out of bed, but no one listens. I needed someone to come to me or ask me to meet them, nothing! 
So I'm on my own! I have to deal with it but I don't know how!

I want my dad how he was 2 weeks ago, when he was ok and full of energy. But now he is scared! I'm scared but what can we do!? 
Its the worst feeling in the world to feel the hurt the heart break! Why is life so cruel?

I am 32 and feel robbed of my life with my dad! I need him! I have never felt hurt inside me like I am right now! I am so sorry for anyone who has gone through this or who is going through this! 

 

  • HI, I'm in the same nightmare, my beautiful partner of 18 years was diagnosed on monday with stomach cancer, he is going this thursday for the proper breakdown, he has failed so much this past week and looks ill, i lost ny mother to cancer when she was a similar age..55, i was 22 then and i remember how horrible it was now, i did get over it but it left a hole in my life. Now my man has it, we are total soul mates, do everything together, I am just taking it one hour at a time, dont be afraid of coping because this is you coping now, we have control of how hard we make it. Try not to cry for imagined situations, cry by all means but ask yourself is this cry for me or him? You'd be surprised how often we go into self pity cries, my partner is a musician and played every sunday in a band, he has decided he wants to go to the band today and join them, i am driving, how can I sit there and listen to his exquisite guitar playing and not totally lose it,  i don't know but im going to put one foot infront of the other. For him..take care