Just found this forum and been reading a lot of your posts ... I have 9cm to be removed ... reading all your posts that seems like I have a lot of this disease to be removed ... so scared ...
So sorry that you find yourself here. It's not clear from your post what your diagnosis is, but I am sending lots of love and happy to chat if you want anything!
I have a 9cm tumour in my breast ... I'm due my op in 10 days ... I'm just feeling a bit nervous now ... started before Xmas with blood and discharge in my bra ... I have my amazing parents by my side ... but didn't tell anyone other than my mam on the day of my appointment at the hospital.. because I didn't want to worry anyone ... since find out the worst ... Im yet to find the words to explain to my daughter.. she's 12 ... I'm a single parent ... my partner of 7 year has removed himself from the situation... just feel a bit lost .... I don't do this kind of thing ...
Of course you will feel nervous but take some solace in the fact that you have a plan and your team will do everything to help you beat this thing.
It's so hard especially when you have children. My diagnosis is different from yours but I have a four year old daughter so can appreciate the pain you are going through.
Thank you for taking the time out to message me back ...
We all have a journey ..: some worse than others .... I feel lucky in ways as I have someone around me that has an incurable cancer ... and he is so positive and determined ... It's hard not to think the worst ... and obviously as im sure you feel the same ... you worry about your child x
How's you ... what's your story ... I hope you have had or getting the treatment you need ... ️
Hi, I am too recently diagnosed, it's so surreal! how are you finding everything? I have found that in am so bloody angry at everything! I want to smash the cancer out of me! I'm angry at how long the results take, how under 50s are not always taken seriously, there is no screening under 40, even when then we're worried about my lump I never got a mammogram, I only had one when I had a diagnosis! both my dad and my husbands dad is very very poorly, been battling stuff for the last 14 months. You feel so incredibly guilty for adding this stress to everyone. Finding out my nieces were really upset pretty much killed me. Made me realise that I have physically been diagnosed, but the rest of my family and close friends are held hostage by my cancer. my husband is amazing, but I worry about him, as he doesn't like to say very much, he's not a very emotional person, he's matter of fact, and very methodical, he is super supportive though. I have started writing a blog which I know he reads, this way I can get my feelings out on paper, and when he is ready he reads them in his own time. It's unfortunately not uncommon for some people to withdraw, think it would be really important that you both sit down with your breast nurse and talk things through. For some complete removal is a protective measure, he may feel out of sorts or genuinely doesn't know what to do. could you write a letter to him explaining how you are feeling, sometimes a person who is very unsure how to support someone may benefit from hearing how they can help you?
as for your 12 year old, I told mine on Friday. I kept it simple and basic: told her I was sick, but the doctors where going to do everything to make me better. In the next few months and beyond, I may seem ok, I may be upset, angry or I'll for a short while. The illness shows I am having treatment to sort me out. We had some tears, I told her right now in this situation at this moment in time I am fine, as my treatment progresses I will keep all 3 of them updated , so mum is having g this treatment for next x weeks, I may look a little sick, be very tired. Take it but by bit. The whole picture is enormous!! The fight is real, look to your next update treatment and no further. I've been advised to keep to a routine, keep things normal.
im here if you need a chat, you'll smash this cancer !!
i hope you are doing okay. I have a similar situation to you. A lesion (non mass) that is 10cm minimum but it's only microinvasive on my case. So just saying hi and good luck.
