Cancer Research UK main site

Mum diagnosed with breast cancer

GeorgiaLF
Offline

Hi everyone

I'm new to this website. Never thought I'd end up here as I've always thought of myself as being fortunate to not have any close family or friends diagnosed with cancer. I realise now that it was very naive of me.

I'm 29 years old and have just found out that my mum has been diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer. All I can say is I'm absolutely distraught. My mum brought me up as a single parent and I'm an only child and it has always just been me and her (and my lovely cat Chloe who we tragically lost to cancer last year after 18 wonderful years). 

I left home a couple of years ago to move in with my now husband, and got married last year and just found out 3 weeks ago that we're expecting a baby. I speak to my mum 2-3 times a day and we tell each other everything, and I just cannot begin to imagine life without her. If she's not here, I don't want to be here. I can't stop crying and fearing the worst. I love her so much, she's the love of my life; my whole world. 

I know that stage 2 cancer is treatable, but she's having a CT and MRI scan on Wednesday and then she will get a treatment plan on Friday, which is great. It's all been so quick. But im just terrified that the MRI and CT scan will reveal something more and that the provisional stage 2 she has been given from her biopsy and other tests is going to be staged higher.

Please can anyone help. Anyone with any success stories as I could use some positivity whilst I anxiously wait til Friday. I feel like my whole world has fallen apart and the thought of my mum not being here when I have my first baby is tearing me apart.

Thank you x 

  • Offline in reply to GeorgiaLF

    Hi Again, 

    Nice to hear from you. So I'm not sure what Chemo drugs she is having, I am on FEC-T and have it every three weeks, I know of ladies having Chemo every 2 weeks but not sure if same drug but can't certainly help.

    Has you Mum had her Chemo talk yet with the Nurse,? they will go through everything with her all the scary stuff but you don't get everything they say.

    The Pic Line does not hurt and is great, it speeds everything up, she will have to have it flushed once a week but that's also good as you get to see your nurses.

    The Sad thing is she will lose her hair, that's really hard, make sure she gets referred for a wig straight away, I had an NHS one but some hospitals give vouchers, or you can buy one yourselves.

    Your mum will probably feel ok the day after Chemo everyone is different but day 3 is when it's kicks in for me and usually lasts a week, just feeling tired and generally a bit Yuk. 

    The main side effect for me is the Nausea but they will give her sickness for that, she must take what they give even if she doesn't feel sick. Also drink lots of fluids the days after too flush it out. 

    Don't forget the first one is hard as it's the unknown but once she has she will know what to expect and it will be the same each time.  

    My mum will make a big lasagna or Cottage pie for the week after Chemo as I can't face cooking, maybe you could do something like that if you wanted too help it's nice when you don't have to think about food.

    She will be fine, it will be ok

    love sarah 

  • Offline

    Hi everyone

    I haven’t been on here for over a year now, but was just thinking about you all today and wondering how you were all getting on with your treatment? I hope everything is going well.

    My mum had chemo, a mastectomy and radiotherapy last year, and is now, I’m so pleased to say, cancer free. 

    Thank you so much for all of your replies when I was in a really low place. You all really helped me, and I’d love to hear from you and how you are all getting on xx

Speak to a nurse

Quick links

Follow us

Registered with Fundraising Regulator (logo)
Cancer Research UK is a registered charity in England and Wales (1089464), Scotland (SC041666), the Isle of Man (1103) and Jersey (247). A company limited by guarantee. Registered company in England and Wales (4325234) and the Isle of Man (5713F). Registered address: 2 Redman Place, London, E20 1JQ.