Hi MrsLJY

i saw your post and wanted to reply as I had a unilateral mastectomy 3 years ago and have three young children. I was offered reconstruction at the time (and several times since) but I chose not to go for it as I felt it would never feel like a real part of me. Also I wanted to avoid the possibility of needing multiple surgeries, being left with ongoing pain. At first I hid my mastectomy from my kids but at some point I felt ready to show them and they just accepted it. They're 8,6 and 3 now. My husband too has accepted it and it hasn't affected our relationship though I can be a bit self conscious sometimes. For me, I think the fact that I was always flat chested helped and also the fact that when I'm wearing a prosthesis no one can tell that I've had surgery. I can't comment on the chemo as I've managed to avoid that. I wish you all the best on your journey; you can do it.