So so scared please help me

Hi all not even sure if I am posting in the right place. I am desperate so scared. My mum had an endoscopy 2 weeks ago almost and doctor doing endoscopy said there was a tumour and it was likely cancerous biopsy's was taken there & then. Tuesday she had a ct scan the same day she was rushed back to hospital as they'd found a large blood clot in her chest. When she was seen to in a&e we was not expecting them to tell us that the biopsy's were confirmed as cancer and it has spread it was now touching her liver. The morning after the doctor told her it's advanced cancer and it's spread to her liver. Mum has been discharged from hospital this evening and we've just read her discharge papers and it says palliative chemotherapy what does this mean? Are we going to loose her? She's only 58 we've just lost our dad suddenly and unexpectedly on Boxing Day last year we've just had his 1 year anniversary. This is to much to bare I am petrified 

  • Hi 

    My mum has recently been diagnosed with overian cancer. She's elderly unlike your mum but still I feel the same as you after all this is our mum's. It's horrid but try to stay positive their seems to be a plan for treatment so best thing is to spend some time with your mum and wait for the next step. Take it a day at a time. Iv been to care for my mum every day. I help her change, watch TV try n laugh n make the most off what iv got n I pray things will get better. Lots off love your not aline in you fear I feel jyst the same I'm so sorry this is happening to you n so soon after other things. Xx

  • Hi Thankyou. I'm sorry to hear about your mum. This is awful isn't it so worrying xx

  • Hi

    I m so sorry to read about your mum and all you have been through. Whilst I am not in the same situation exactly , I am currently going through breast cancer treatment , with 3 children aged 21, 17 and 12 who I know have struggled at times with my diagnosis. The thing to remember and keep in the back of your mind is that cancer treatments have improved so much , with many people living for many years , even with an initial poor prognosis.  Your mum will receive the best possible care and they will do all they can for her. So be positive and try not to worry ( or Google) things you don t yet have the answers too.

    Keep strong my lovely

  • Hi Sam - so sorry to hear your news. I looked up Palliative Care on the internet - it is the care given when a cancer can not be cured - it says that it does not mean you are going to die. I understand your GP refers you so someone with be in touch. I have phoned the MacMillan Nurses for support before - they are brilliant at listening and giving you info - tel: 0808 8080000. Wishing you all the best for your mum - Karen