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Isolation after my mums death.

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Hi 

I lost my mum in July 2018 to cancer, it was an incredibly tough time, i visited her everyday.  I am an only child and have few friends.  My dad met someone new 6 weeks after my mum died (they had been married for 52 years)  and they have just celebrated their first wedding anniversary.  Myself and my mum and dad had always been really close and her death  hit me hard although It was a relief to see her suffer no more.  I am married with 2 children (18 and 8).   My relationship  with my husband is not great,  my 8 year old keeps me going but somedays I just want to pack up and move away.  My mums friends don't speak to me if i see them, extended family  don't make contact.  I have a good job  but just feel so incredibly sad  and isolated. 

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    Hi there,

     I'm so sorry to hear you're feeling this way. The family dynamics change so much after the death of a parent. My Mum passed away in June this year and has left a massive void - she was such a bright light and loved so much. 

    I have a brother who is amazing, but I can't discuss missing mum with him. I've got a hubby and a son who's 18 and now in Uni. My marriage isn't total harmony either and it's really hard at times, I feel like we just coexist independently of each other.

    These times are horrible as I think everyone is feeling cut off from each other. I feel similar at times and I still miss Mum really bad, but it is getting a bit easier.

    The first Christmas is going to be weird and her first birthday but it'll be the same for you. 
    Do you have a good relationship with your Dad?
    I've only just joined this but there are lots of people on here to connect with who are experiencing similar things.

    Go easy on yourself and give yourself permission to grieve, it's tough I know

    sending hugs

    GB 

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