Coping with loss even after two years!

I lost the love of my life in Feb 2018

We were married for five weeks short of 45 years.

He was the love of my life.

He was the only man I have ever been with ,had our children together, 

 

He was given the bad news in December 2016, that he had stage 4 stomach czncer. He was so scared.

But he touched it out. Brave, wonderful, and like all our cancer suffered and patients.. Tota!my couragious.

He was 66 and one month when he died.

His cancer treatment worked it shrunk the whaatever, and was doing great.

Sad!y during his break from chemo,he contracted pneumonia. His body was just too weak to fight it.

He passed with myself and daughters at his side.

He was a much loved man.

 

I just don't even two years six months and four days later , deal with losing him.

I'm great at putting on a mask and going to work. Taking care of our grandchikdren.

Chatting to friends

Then call apart when home alone.

Pictures everywhere.

Memories of times only we would know about.

I have some amazing good friends who have been there to me. I just cannot cry confront of them. They think I'm string.

I'm not.

 

I miss him so much. 

Will I ever get through this?

Sorry. I just had to write things down.

 

  • Hello GwynP

    I'm so very sorry to hear about your husband. I can tell from your post that you loved him very much and I can only imagine what a difficult time it has been for you. I'm glad to hear that you have such supportive friends. 

    I think that grief is one of the hardest emotions that we can ever have to go through and I don't think it's uncommon for people to put on a brave face to friends and loved ones. I'm not sure how helpful that always is though. From your post I think that your friends would step u pto support you if they knew just how much you're struggling with things. 

    You don't mention in your post if you've had any bereavement counselling but it's certainly something that I know lots of our members here have said they benefited from. You can find out more on the Cruse website here

    I'd encourage you to be kind to yourself Gwyn. Talk to someone or if you feel unable to do that sometimes putting pen to paper can help to process thoughts and feelings too. You're welcome to keep posting here on the forum if it helps. 

    I'm not sure you ever really get through this journey with grief but with some help it can make the difficult days easier. 

    Sending best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator