Hello Golfdelsur, 

I am so sorry for the loss of your mum. It sounds like you were very close and it must be really difficult for you at the moment but congratulations on the exciting news of your pregnancy. As you say, this has now given you something to look forward to and brought light into your lives at a time when you felt surrounded by darkness. I can completely understand why you would want your dad to be there present at your scan given that sadly your mum cannot be there by your side. Perhaps you could try and talk to your husband again about this and mention that it would mean a lot to you given the loss you suffered this year. I hope that some of our community members will come along shortly to share their thoughts on this with you. It is indeed a difficult situation to be in and I hope that you manage to find the best compromise or solution but most importantly I hope that the scan goes well and the baby boy is thriving!

I hope everything goes well with your pregnancy. I bet you can't wait to see your little boy! 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator