Hi there ..

Oh my, this happens so often ... and because they can't understand those feelings, feel even lower ... because then they feel guilty their down .. it's a downward spiral ..

The easiest way to explain it.. is the minute we get the cancer diagnosis we jump on a rollercoaster... which doesn't have a get off sign .. or let you know when the ups come and when the huge down comes too .. we just have to hold on tight, while it seems we have no control .. it lasts the whole journey ... 

So when someone stops the rollercoaster after so so long .. and says right off you go .. and your head is still spinning from the ride ... and you look around to every thing that became a "normal" and all the oncology team are gone .. just looking around confused ... at everything they've been through .. and yet even the old normal isn't there now ..  

So bless her .. I think there should be a "we brief" on those feelings and to know it's quite normal .. I'd tell her to take baby steps now .. like when learning to walk on her own as a toddler .. one little step at a time ..  and listen to her .. she will need to talk about it at different times .. to many people around us think, well it's over now, let's move on .. but we are not the same person .. we change ... cancer changes us .. it can be a good thing .. we can take every day as a bonus .. look at things we used to take for granted and never take things for granted again .. but it develops slowly , by talking and understanding from those around us ...   Chrissie x