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hi all, 

in march i was told i needed my ovary removing as i had a suspected germ cell tumour. Post surgery when i got my results i was told it was actually a granulosa cell tumour at Grade 1A so surgery successfully removed all the cancer, however my oncologist told me this cancer tends to return usually years after initial treatment so i will need lifelong monitoring. 

since i got the all clear i have been feeling really down and upset and like i dont want to be around people only my boyfriend. but even so my boyfriend stumbles on what to say when i say im feeling down as he can only see the positive side that im all clear. 

is it normal to feel like this? ive got an assessment on monday with a councellor so hopefully i can soon be back to normal

 

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    Hi there ...

    Your deff not alone ... many have that same feeling ... but it's like you've been on a rollercoaster ride for weeks then some on stops the ride and you get off .. everything looks different .. it's hard to walk ... and your brain is confused ... just a comparison , if you get the meaning ...

    Because they told you it MAY occur again at some point .. now your just wondering when ... and that's taken over ... so all you can see is it comming back ... so no wonder you've gone into your safety shell  ..and your boyfriend must be confused ...

    Well wer all in the same boat .. once we have any cancer we know it still sits on our shoulder waiting .. none of us know what tomorrow will bring ... so we can either sit there waiting .. missing out on every day you've brpeen given ... or we can make the most of every day... like it's a gift to see things differently .. to look at nature and realise what an ausome thing it is ... stay close to kind caring people .. don't have grumpy moany people around you .. yes life is short even if we live to 100 ... or go tomorrow...

    You can look cancer in the eye and tell it you've kicked it's butt ... and take life by the short and curlies.. slowly finding a new normal ... none of us are ever the same again after cancer .. but it can make us even better people then we were before .. it's about taking baby steps ... till you find your way .. and know those feelings your feeling have been felt by many before you ... Chrissie

     

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    Hi its perfectly normal you've been told all clear,, BUT,, remember you are all clear, you can live a normal life, just need a checkup now and again,, your boyfriend is hoping you can live a normal life he's probably worried about you as well. Anyway congratulations on all clear. I wish I had all clear, they found my C over 3 years now it's not curable I have to live with it knowing one day it will spread to far, you are very lucky. Hope you get sorted soon best wishes.

    Billy 

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