Wow, hats off to you for everything you've been through.

I was a cancer patient, but not until shortly after taking early retirement. Previously I did have a long spell off work due to inner ear nerve damage, cause unknown, which means I suffer from vertigo, dizziiness, fatigue, plus I'm aware I don't process information as quickly as before. So getting back to work wasn't easy.

Looking back, I put too much pressure on myself to be "normal." My situation had changed, Occupational Health recognised that, as did my boss. A couple of people at work didn't "get it." but I soon realised that was more about them than me.

In the early stages, I would pretend everything was okay even when I felt rough. Then I learned to say, "I need to step out for a bit of fresh air." That made things easier. People are not mind readers, but most want to help if they know you need a break. a little time out. It's more productive in the long run.

It isn't easy being a different version of yourself, but you're still here, still doing your best. That's pretty amazing. 

regards, gamechanger

Wow! Just wow! 

I cannot believe how well you have done and you're truly incredible! 

I'm so sorry I have no idea how to deal with your return to work I just don't know and I can't imagine what you've been through, I'm completely useless here but you are incredibly strong and I'm convinced you will find your way. 

My only real advice would be to take it a day at a time step by step. What you've been through is huge and you deserve to take this slowly and at your own pace. 

And please try not to struggle with your confidence, I know that's easier said than done and I know it must be frustrating to be left with symptons but please please hold your head up and be strong. If I was working with you or if I was your boss I'd just be happy to have you back at work with us, I'd find a way to help you through things that you might struggle with now so I would ask if you need a bit of help and talk about things. Don't bottle it up just say how you feel and what it's like. I think everyone will be really proud of you, I really do. Xxxxxx

Hi I was having kemo three years ago I wasn't good with it I had it every 21 days for first 3 to 4 days I was OK then it started I was sick all the time days and night I had pains all over for 7 to 8 days then it went off I felt better just in time for more kemo. When I was OK I went to work (metal fab and welding) my boss was very understanding, when I got to retiring age he asked me to stop on even part time if I wanted. I'did for 3 years but then my wife got ill so I have to look after her now. I found work helps to keep the mind off the cancer. Good luck,.

Billy 

Thank you so much for all of your posts - there really mean a lot. Bits that took me a few minutes before my cancer diagnosis are now taking me up to about an hour if not much longer. I work in accounting. You guys are right though - my boss is one of the 99% that do care - so that’s good.