Hi AJ51

Like you I'm New on here but not to treatment. I was diagnosed in 2011 and up until October last year was still having treatment. You mentioned finding a lump, I too found a small hard lump in my reconstructed breast which I insisted was removed and tested. It turned out to be a lump of fatty tissue that my surgeon assured me was very common following surgery.

I think the feelings of isolation and loneliness you mention are also completely normal. I too never needed any reassurance or hand holding throughout my treatment but now the feelings of anxiety and depression are never far away. I suppose treatment takes over your life so completely, it seems almost like a bereavement when it's taken away. Good luck and good health to you x

Hi there ...

I've been on here a year now ... And I've had grade 3 her 2 neg lump ... I had right side masectomy last July and the scar had small hole in middle ... Which they left and I knew it would be trouble, and two lumps grew underneath ... Back to surgery couple of months ago, and they were just calsification... And that time sowed me up properly ... I think it's quite common .. 

Over my time here I've come across quite a few who feel like you after good news or everything finishes ..  this is only my opinion but my theary is ... When we feel pretty strong through everything, once it's over your brain realises just what you've been through and the shock that we bottle up comes out ..

Then we're more confused coz we then we can't make sense of that ... And everything stops exept it doesn't coz then it lives on our shoulder ... It's always there .. I think those finishing treatment need councilling just for a while to understand, it's o.k ... To feel everything no matter how confusing it seems ..so fingers crossed your will be o.k too ...  Chrissie x

Hi 

Chris is spot on. It is so the norm to feel like this that I was told by the oncologist at first nd last appt with her ( only had 2) that it is normal to experience low mood at the end of treatment. I was advised the days nd times of the support group I could go to if I got this. 

As it happens I didn’t. I grabbed my life with both hands determined to get it as back to normal as possible. Busy with family nd looking after grand kids had little time to myself to dwell on things.

I think diagnosis nd treatment is so intense and everything is planned for u then suddenly u r cut adrift. On your own nd it feels like that on your own nd alllllll this free time to think. 

I hope things improve for u soon but if not go to the support groups ( contact yr bc nurse she will b able to tell u yr nearest) or if really low go see your gp ... he can refer u to a psychologist if needed. 

U are not alone and there is help for u post treatment x

Hi there ... let us know how them lumps go ... hopefully they will be fine ... now go forward, knowing your just being human, and if your still needing help do what Sandra says ask about support groups in your area... McMillan should know ... take care Chrissie x