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my dads funeral on monday the 10th april

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My dads funeral is on monday 10th april cant believe how fast its coming, will this really be the final goodbye? just thought i would have had a few more years with him.

i keep wanting to ring him then it flows bk to me that i cant and then the hurt comes bk then all i do is break down is this all normal xx 

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    Hi Tina,

    I am so sorry to hear about your dad. You have probably been so busy arranging his affairs and the funeral that you haven't had time to grieve properly yet.

    I lost my mum in 1997 and felt that my grief hit hardest after the funeral was over and I had more time to dwell on her passing. I know that this was years ago, but I still miss her. It is amazing how often I want to discuss something with her or to tell her some news and I have just had to come to terms with the fact that she is no longer here.

    I do keep a photograph of her in my living room and often find myself speaking to her. I know that this sounds strange, but it does give me some comfort.

    Cry as much as you want. This is a good release valve and is much better than bottling things up.

    I hope that you manage to give your dad a good send off tomorrow. I shall be thinking of you and am sure that you will find the strength to get through the day, Thereafter just take things day by day.

    Jolamne xx

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    Hi Tina,

    I have been thinking of you all day today and hope that you managed to get through your ordeal and have managed to give your dad a fitting send off.

    I don't know how long your dad has been unwell for or what support you have from family and friends. Give yourself time to come to terms with his passing. Cry when you need to and take whatever support you get from family and friends. Try not to push them away. It is all too easy to do this without even realising it, until you find yourself on your own.

    All these people just want to help you through this process and, if you're receptive to them, I'm sure that you will find that their support is of some solace.

    Be good to yoursef. Keep in touch and we will try to help you through you grief too.

    Jolamine x

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