well 6 months after coming throu breast cancer treatment has left me feeling Sad, Angry. still in pain from a lumpectomy surgery & still shocked I even had it in the first place and fearing for my future. I am told by the doctor they are, I quote " not that worried about me" Well i bloody am! the thought of only having a yearly mamogram is scaring the hell out of me and then only every 3 years ! what!! They dish out this Tamoxifen like its sweets and say you will get used to it, Really ? no sleep what so ever, fitfull 20 mins all night inbetween bouts of sweats windows open, windows shut, getting up for wee like 7 times or more in one night and upset stomach that feels like the after effect of a huge curry and a night on the booze ! I don't think and DONT WANT TO ever get used to that.
I JUST WANT TO FEEL NORMAL AGAIN....
I am single and have been for many years due to a marriage ending so now during the many lonley hours tossing and turning and feeling dirty and smelly from sweat & feeling like this really is being plunged into a living hell I lie there and think well thats it then ! sex life over no guy is going to put up with this ! I couldn't even bare the thought of another person in my bed taking up my cold spots or cold pillows i turn over. I am 45 I should be grateful im still even alive after breast cancer but all i feel at the moment is a huge sense of loss for the active fit life I once had.
I was never in all honesty a good sleeper but now well I feel as if i might as well not even bother going to bed and watch Tv all night. I do not want to take antidepressants I struggle with the thought of taking Tamoxifen 10 years as it is. well If i live that long because the latest thing i read is in most cases 20 40% of cancer returns in the future in other parts of the body ! so great we take a drug for 10 years to beat breast cancer and its going to come back anyway else where so why bother having years of misery on a drug im asking myself.
I keep asking about Aquapuncture and they ( they being the medical proffession) seem to say yea it might help. Im like ok then let me have some ?? I can't afford to pay for private i barly can manage to pay for my bills and food shop and buy for my kids. Why do they docs all seem to think everyone wants to pop ANOTHER pill to make it all go away.
I went to the health food shop yesterday and spent £35 on vits ! bloody hell that was a shock at the till. but he assured me these were good. Time release vit c. charochol and B6. Think might have to look in the 99p shop after these are gone !
I am not due to go back to the hosp now for another 8 weeks to see the oncon but I feel a bit abandonded. I went to my local GP about the weeing problem and sweats and she looked it up in a book and said ah yes Tamoxifen has these side effects told me she would send my wee off to check it and that was that, bye ! I walked out thinking is that it ?? what can you do for me to help me live with this ?
I feel with breast cancer surgery you know at some point wether its a terribly sad removal of the breast or a lumpectomy the physical pain will eventutually heal, Radio T and Chemo will eventually end and side effects eventually pass in time. With Drug side effects when you are being told to committ to it for 10 years !! are not being address how the hell are you supose to deal with that ? The oncon said it will get better- on the advice of taking hormonal drugs they say the side effects will go when you stop taking the drug, sorry but i am not putting up with this for f ing 10 years ! these should be my fun years now kids getting older im in my 40s for god sake!
Does anyone else feel like this ? because my friends SO DO NOT GET IT. ! they are like you beat it come on lets go out and im like are you joking ? just because the cancer lump has been taken away the threat of it coming back and the side effects of the drugs is ever present in my mind 24/7....
Suzie.