Hi there Clair,

But be sure it will get better ! It's so easy for me to say all the cliches, but , honestly I don't know what it's like to lose your mum so young, my mum died  when I was in my thirties. Do you know what though, I felt like you even then, so it's nothing to do with age.

The thing is, you need to keep saying how you feel, to anyone who will listen to you, friends , extended family....even people on here as it really helps. Write down your feelings, it can be as though you've said the words out loud. I think if you told your G.P the way you feel he/she may be able to guide you to something that might help ?

The people on here have been great for me over the years and continue to be. 

Take Care Clair and come back when you need an ear 

Marian x 

Hi Clair, so sorry to hear of your troubles, I wish I could do something to help. My husband died last year, my girls were 22 & 24, even tho they have me they feel lost and lonely without him. I get them to have a lot of holistic therapies to support them, I keep talking about their dad to them so they don't feel he is totally lost to them and I have encouraged them to have counselling. You are never alone even though you feel that way, there are people in the same situation you can link up with or if you want to get away from the "grief/bereavement" then hook up with a group you will have fun with. Deff see your GP, be brave and explain how you feel, they will help and point you in the direction of different support groups. If I can help in anyway, even just to listen please feel free to message me. I lost my dad young and had no help with my grief issues which took many many years for me to come to terms with. Thinking of you x

Thank you for your reply, means alot :)

I have spoken to my GP now and I feel so much better for doing it! Your right, speaking to someone is important and helps.

Mum's are your best friend so its hard for anyone to lose a Mum I think, im sorry to hear that you have lost yours too.

Clair xx

Im so sorry to hear that, and I hope your girls are coping well. May I ask what holistic therapy is?

I have recently seen my GP and in the process of sorting out counselling which I think will help me alot.

Thank you for taking the time to message me back :)xx

Hi claire, I'm donna and I'm new on here and your the first I've replied to. I have poss ovarian cancer and very worried, however I lost my dad from heart attack and I'm certain cancer too 6 years ago - he was 47. Nothing replaces our heart ache for our parents, I still feel very lost and very lonely at times to. Nothing takes the pain away nor is time a great healer - but it gets easier to cope with. There isn't any magic wand to bring them back - I wish there was! But I wanted to let you no, you're not alone and your always welcome to chat with me of you'd like - it might help me to! Sharing doesn't change anything, but it might help to vent and get it out. I hope you're ok xxx

Hi Donna,

Sorry for the very late reply, my laptop decided to crash on me and I have only just got a new one.

Im sorry to hear about your Dad and your situation. It can be very lonely at times and I struggle without her sometimes when I need her support or just for her to reassure me. Im waiting to hear back from Cruse about some sort of support and help so fingers crossed.

Aww thank you and your more than welcome to speak to me aswell.

Have you had any treatment or anything yet? I hope everything is ok, that must be hard and I cant imagine whats going through your head, but your Dad would want you to be strong xxx

I can't imagine what it is like for you to loose your mum. My mum has recently been diagnosed with Kidney cancer of the lower pole and she was told last week , they will not be able to operate on her, she wouldn't survive it. So now we are waiting on a biopsy appointment, to see what else they can do.... I am so scared of the outcome of the result. Unfortunately I lost my dad when I was 12, so she is the only one that is left. 

Scary times ahead.

Hey,

Aww im sorry to hear that about your Mum and about your Dad :(

Hopefully they will find another solution for your Mum, and at the moment just concentrate on making the good times with her and keep her smiling! Your doing your best and being there for your Mum, and I bet she is so happy she has you by your side.

Losing your dad must have been hard at that age..dont think of it as scary times ahead, just think how strong you can both be for your dad. Hope your ok xxx