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Loosing my Mum at 16

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I'm 16 years old and lost my mum to cancer about 4 months ago (still feels like 4 days). She had bowel cancer which developed into multiple tumours and it was a shock to all my family when she passed at such a young age. I have now been diagnosed with depression which has affected me a lot.All my friends try and be supportive but it's something that I don't think even I can understand at my age. I don't know how to cope, I still can't after 4 months. I was really looking for any advice people have about loosing someone so special and how they cope with everyday things such as going out, which I find extremely difficult

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    Hi Sarah, I am so sorry that you have lost your Mom to this terrible disease. At 16, this is a very heavy burden for you to be carrying on your shoulders. I hope you have family members there to help you through this difficult time. Losing your Mom at any age is hard, but at 16, it just doesn't seem fair. I read from your post that you have been diagnosed with depression, so obviously you are getting professional help through this and that's a good thing. I think this diagnosis will not be a lifelong thing for you and once you have had time to grieve the loss of your Mom, you will start to feel less depressed. Grieving the loss of such an important person in your life takes time and a lot of hard work. It will get less difficult for you as time heals and hopefully, you will be able to move on in your life and make your Mom proud of you, as I'm sure she already is. You will always feel the loss of your Mom and that will never go away, but it will be less painful for you in time.

    Come back on the forum and let us know how you are. Tell us about your Mom and your relationship with her. Writing this down will be a big help to you too as you go through this difficult time.

    Sending you hugs.

    Lorraine  

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    Hi sarahalice284

    Sorry that you have lost your mum.

    I hope you find it helpful to come and share your feelings.

    As you can see from LorraineD's warm welcome, there are others here who will support you at this difficult time.

    Also there is a website called riprap which also has a forum here where you can chat to other teenagers in a similar position to you. 

    Please let us know how you are getting on,

    Jane

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    Hi Sarah,

    I was so sorry to read your post; its such a young age to lose your mother. I lost my mother several years ago and I still miss her. But one thing I have found; there are times when I say or do things and suddenly I realize it's just what my mother would have said or done. It makes me feel that a part of her is still here inside of me if that makes any sense.

    As regard to going out, let me just say that your mother would understand your grieving but she would want you to try and carry on your life and go out with your friends. As our lovely Lorraine has said, I am sure your mother is very proud of you.

    Sending best wishes and kind thoughts, Brian


     

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