Hi Stepharoni, 

It's good news that your husband is now in remission after having colorectal cancer - he seems to have done fantastically well. Unfortunately cancer and cancer treatment can leave a mark and it's difficult for life to get back to normal and it can take a while to get a semblance of normality. It must be so frustrating for him to have to do this admin role from home when he used to have a physically demanding job. It must be so hard for him to realise that there was a before and after and I think he probably needs time to adjust to everything and accept this new normal. This is something many members of our community will have experienced themselves and I hope that they will come and share with you how they managed to pace themselves and recalibrate their lives after going through cancer and suffering the repercussions of cancer treatment. 

I would recommend you have a look at our Life Beyond Cancer section which looks precisely at this difficulty many feel in adapting to life after going through cancer and treatment. You seem to be really supportive and I am sure your husband appreciates everything you are doing for him and the best you can do really is simply carry on as you are doing being attentive to his needs and listening to him, helping him adjust to his life post cancer and reassuring him too that it is still early days and it takes time sometimes to adapt to this new normal.

I hope that things will get better for him and that he will find a new normal that satisfies him and makes him happy. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator