Is this depression?

Hi, my partner was diagnosed with cancer about 2yrs ago, he's had operations and tests show he has no longer cause for major concern but not given the all clear yet, he's been back to work for a while now so life is in a new normal.  My concern is every time anyone in the family gets sick, he says he's got it too only he's worse, thing is he often doesn't have the symptoms it's like it's in his head. I'm currently unwell and he's telling people at work he has the same thing, he WFH, he's not showing any signs of illness & is out tonight with friends. I appreciate the massive trauma he's been through but I don't know what to do anymore. 

  • I'm no expert but it sounds like your partner may still be very nervous about illness. This is a hard thing to understand unless you've had a serious diagnosis that has rocked your world, but once you have, it can change how you view risk. No longer cause for concern doesn't always mean much if you didn't gave much cause for concern leading up to your cancer diagnosis either.

    Without actual symptoms of depression, which of course, he may have, I wouldn't jump to depression just from this. If you haven't already, you can Google the diagnostic symptoms for depression and while you obviously can't diagnose him, you could see if they are a possible fit.

    It could be illness anxiety disorder or it could just be a normal short term thing as he deals with awaiting the all-clear.