Hi Jukie, 

I just wanted to offer you a very warm welcome to Cancer Chat, but also my sincerest condolences for the loss of your sister in law.

I'm so sorry for how this has left you feeling but I hope you can take some strength, and comfort, from knowing that the mixed thoughts and feelings you are having are normal and completely understandable given what's happened so do be kind to yourself at this very difficult time. 

Many of our members have contended with similar emotions so you are not alone and I'm sure they will offer their support and advice to you soon.

If you'd feel it may help to talk things through with one of our cancer nurses, you can do so on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m. They are very easy to talk to and will do all they can to support you at this time.

I'm not sure if this is something you have looked in to already, but some of our members have found counselling to be really helpful when dealing with such complex emotions so if you'd like to find out more be sure to have a look at this section of our website. You may also be able to get further support and advice from your GP or through your local Maggie's centre.

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator