Bye bye prostate - concerned about the effects my prostate removal has had on my relationship with my partner

Quite a difficult and even taboo subject is the effect on life after having the prostate removed and more specific the sex life has between the partner and I has ceased altogether. So one has resorted to other means to cope, but don't really think its the right one for mental strength.  

  • You have to improvise, think outside the box, use the pump, tablets, cream, etc.

    Also get super fit, work on your core, Kegel exercises and overall fitness. 

    Get into smoothies and add some traditional aphrodisiacs to it. ( Seamoss, Matcha, Bois Bande, etc)

    Over time you will get dry ejaculation and then take it from there.

  • Offline in reply to Lumpa

    Thanks for that , I do have and use the pump now and then and it does work with a couple of rings , the tablets give me a headache so not worth it for what they do. My fitness is ok but need to work harder at that !!! Snag is I have radiotherapy 20 sessions coming up for the cancer is rising again in the bed of the prostate , so will deal with it as it comes .

  • Offline in reply to Geebs

    Well one of the best advice I ever got was ' never give up'.

    So am not giving up.

    The radiation these days seem to be better, more accurate and advance.

    But what about a lifestyle change - diet, no meat, no sugar, saw palmetto, Zinc, fasting, cleanse. 

    Combining traditional medicine with modern day medicine, starving the Cancer - Cancer likes sugar they say

  • Hello Lumpa

    I just wanted to reply to your comment about not consuming sugar to help starve cancer. This is a common myth about diet and cancer that is often reshared. 

    You might find it helpful to have a look at this article about sugar and cancer as well as this article that talks about a few common cancer-related myths. 

    I hope this helps. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

  • Weirdly, our family dentist repeated this sugar thing to my wife when she was in getting her dental check up before she began treatment. I had heard about this many times myself when cancer was nothing some thing you glanced over in some inane newspaper. Because a dentist had said this to my wife, it kinda reaffirmed what we thought we once knew. Only, when we spoke to those who actually know the first thing about treating the cancer, it was quickly discarded as being a myth, that gre legs over the years and decades. Not too dissimilar to how a fair number of people think you can catch a virus (a cold etc) from just standing outside in the rain. Yeah, the rain doesn't carry the cold virus etc. Just like sugar doesn't really feed most cancers. My wife's cancer was fed by hormones.

  • Also, it's never a bad thing to cut a lot of sugar out of your diet regardless of health status, just like it's a good idea to cut down on processed food regardless of your health status. The only foods my wife was to avoid was anything that interfered with the drugs, the side effects of her treatment (like not eating spicy foods if your mouth is raw) and foods that contained raw ingredients when she had little or no immune system. Like mayonnaise etc. Basically the stuff pregnant woman are told to avoid.

    When my uncle had pancratic cancer, he was told to avoid fatty foods and foods high in sugar, but not because it would make his cancer worse, but because his pancreas could no longer deal with processing these foods.

  • Hello Geebs

    I just wanted to let you know about the sexual service that Prostate Cancer UK provides. The service is available to both you and your partner. 

    It can sometimes help to talk with someone who understands the struggles that you may both be dealing with at the moment. 

    I do hope that the two of you are able to support each other through this next phase of your treatment. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator